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Original poster

If you could pick 3 qualities to pass on to your children, what would they be?

48 replies

Emme89 · 25/02/2023 12:34

Lighthearted! If you could pick a person to have children with, and you could pick 3 qualities from them which would be passed on to your children, what would they be?

Obviously thats not how it works IRL but, I am currently in the process of selecting a sperm donor and finding it so hard to narrow down the options available to me. Anything from eye colour, personality type, education, height, favourite animal… there’s a lot of information!

What qualities would matter most to you?

OP posts:

Emptycrackedcup · 26/02/2023 01:44

Confidence
Resilience
Empathy

Emptycrackedcup · 26/02/2023 01:46

Woops I read that wrong, I thought you meant for my DC. In a person to have DC with ...

Good looks
Brains
Healthy Family

LindorDoubleChoc · 26/02/2023 01:58

Resilience
Optimism
Curiosity

greenspaces4peace · 26/02/2023 02:17

Health
Brains
Looks
the rest you can teach.
btw, one of my grandchildren is via IVF.
recent revelation to me; the child is one of 31 (known) half siblings. The donor was “retired” from donating due to overwhelming successes. Many of the “sibbies” as they call themselves are within a short time span, and are in touch semi regularly. The mom is on a fb group with those who chose to stay in touch.

caringcarer · 26/02/2023 02:43

Self worth/esteem
Good health
Intelligence

JimnJoyce · 26/02/2023 04:20

tenacity
work ethic
enthusiasm

Saschka · 26/02/2023 04:35

If it’s a sperm donor, I’d go with height, intelligence, and looks if you have that option. Assume all sperm donors are screened for health issues, if not I’d pick that over looks.

In terms of what I’d want to pass on from myself - hard work, positivity, love of learning/curiosity. I think those things are likely to make somebody happy in life. Unfortunately I don’t think you can really tell if a sperm donor has those qualities or not!

Ndd135632 · 26/02/2023 04:36

BadlydoneHelen · 25/02/2023 12:35

Positivity
Resilience
Kindness

Exactly this

Oblomov23 · 26/02/2023 05:11

Confidence
Kindness
Integrity

Fuctifin0 · 26/02/2023 05:12

Kindness
Confidence
Humour

Dontsparethehorses · 26/02/2023 05:19

Honesty
kindness
confidence

Wheretheskyisblue · 26/02/2023 05:24

Charisma
Wisdom
Humanity

Girasoli · 26/02/2023 07:57

For my DC when they grow up -
open minded
resilient
kind

If I was choosing a sperm doner -
Well educated
Sporty
Tall (I'm only 5'3")

SandyY2K · 26/02/2023 08:01

Kindness
Self confidence
Driven/ambitious

BounceyB · 26/02/2023 08:06

It's hard to choose. Things I don't possess but would love to have would probably be determination
People person by which I mean caring and loving
Confident (I'm not sure this is genetic).

If my child got those 3 things off his father I'd be happy.

legalseagull · 26/02/2023 08:08

Confidence (I believe happiness follows)
Intelligence
Humour

legalseagull · 26/02/2023 08:09

Looks wise - as much like me as possible I assume.

Idratherbepaddleboarding · 21/04/2023 19:39

Confidence
Hard working
Intellience

frozendaisy · 21/04/2023 19:43

Fearlessness
Positivity
Cocktail making

Sleep10 · 21/04/2023 19:48

Confidence,
Positivity,
And kindness.

Spendonsend · 21/04/2023 19:55

Good emotional regulation
Good boundaries
Jolly

overthinkersanonnymus · 21/04/2023 20:33

Being tall
Humor
Empathy

baloosbaloos · 21/04/2023 20:34

Intelligence, resilience, good looks

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