How independent is your 18 year old?

[SpringIsSpringing23]

In particular your 18 year old daughter.

Does she phone places for appointments eg doctors or do you do it for her? Would she go into doctors or her own or do you go with her?
If she has to be somewhere she's not been to before, can she work out how to get there? If she doesn't drive the place is on a bus route, would she be able to go on her own or would she expect you to go with her?

The person I'm comparing your answers to is neurotypical.

18 year old son and 17 year old daughter.

Both would book appointments and go to them on their own (local hospital won't even let 16+ year olds in with another person since Covid) although sometimes I would go with them if I've driven them there and they want me to.

Both would happily use Google maps and the bus timetable to get themselves places. DD would potentially talk through her plan with me first. DS wouldn't.

Many 18 year olds live entirely independently or live away at university for months at a time.

Though I do think if your 18 year old has never had to be independent before then I would perhaps offer some additional support/scaffolding the first time they have to do something.

I have an 18 and 19YO.

Both happily travel abroad alone, one works as cabin crew so regularly stays alone in hotels and uses public transport/taxis to get around. Books his own hair appointments. Useless at food shopping so I still do that. Both are fine with public transport but would prefer a lift where possible.

DD18 does have anxiety so prefers me to call to make appointments and go to the GP with her when she needs it. She usually does her own food shopping and cooks her own meals.

They both do their own washing, clean their own bathrooms and rooms, and are expected to tidy up after themselves in communal areas. They will clean the house when I’m away and DD looks after the dog by feeding and walking him daily (I’m away a lot for work). They do their own clothes shopping and deal with their own phone contracts but usually with my bank card

Neither can drive yet but both are learning.

So fairly independent - DD travelled abroad alone for the first time at 16 and had to navigate flight transfers and trains in a foreign country and did just fine. She knows how to get travel insurance and what to do if her passport gets lost when abroad etc.