DD had some serious issues pop up at her last school, despite moving from the lower school to the upper she had not made any particularly significant friendships but was friendly with everyone and had a group of 4 children she played with everyday. Within that group of 4 was one new boy who was very over powering at times and was part of the issue which cropped up last term. DD is very good academically and has been in the top sets across the board since starting school. DD has had good / great teachers in the previous school and generally teaching was ok but not great and I frequently thought about an in-year move.
A place became available at an oversubscribed popular school and I was planning on accepting it, then the issue occurred. DD did not want to leave but understood why she would have to. Over the break she eventually became excited and on the weekend just gone was super excited. I explained this could give you the opportunity to make a great set of friends and she understood teaching was better at the new school.
When picking up DD yesterday she left school smiling, said it was great and when we got home I asked lots of questions. All positive till just before bed, she explained that an older girl approached her, ask if she was new said she looked weird and ugly. Another kid stepped in and told the teacher who pulled the older girl up on the comments. DD also said the TA shouted a lot and told another kid to go away quite meanly. DD also commented that she wants to go back to the old school because the kids tend to get into big “gangs” at lunch and she prefers smaller groups.
I am so worried I have made the wrong decision, I have been anxious since dropping her off, hoping she is having a good day. I feel so sick waiting I have wasted the whole afternoon worrying. I know it would not be good for her to go back to the old school, people have said children are resilient but I am worried.
Any advice please?