Mums of adult children, what do you want/expect on mother's day?

[BreviloquentBastard]

I know it's a bit away yet but I'm hoping to field some ideas from other mums of adult children.

My mother is one of the hardest people in the world to buy for as she has everything she wants and needs, is very minimalist, doesn't like chocolate, sweets or booze, makes all her own clothes, doesn't use any makeup or hair products, has one cleanser that she always has plenty of, and always just says "oh I don't know, surprise me!"

I love her to bits, she's a wonderful mum. She LOVES mother's day and very much enjoys being spoiled but I'm totally stuck this year.

So far the only idea I've got is an afternoon tea on a steam train experience day, as she's absolutely obsessed with steam trains at the moment inexplicably. Is that lame? I don't know!

What would you be ecstatic to receive from your adult children?

Steam train sounds great, sure she will love! For future presents though if she makes her own clothes, some nice materials, cottons, sewing accessories. I'm also minimalist like your mother and a keen knitter and love getting yarn or knitting related presents as I will ways use them🎁

I would love the afternoon tea on the train. Or a drive out somewhere if the weather is good.
My daughter always gives me a card, flowers and a gift. Over the years I’ve had pot plants, books, perfume, clothes. But what I enjoy the most has already been mentioned by several posters - just the time spent in each other’s company.

DS washes & polishes my car (as gift to me). Which is fantastic. We make him tea. Others may think to send greetings.

We have a joke in this house that I like homemade cards from adult dc. Literally just a piece of paper and a drawing and words; similar to school made.

One of the best remembered Mother's Day gifts my dc did when they were about 10 and six was boil in the bag kippers and toast in bed. because they knew I liked kippers. Kippery buttery juice in bed is great! 👍

For my own mum, I give her time. She doesn't live near so I almost always drive down on the day before with a home made cake and gift and then get a take away.
I would love time as well and it wouldn't have to be on the day.

I have adult children and all I hope for is a card and their presence at some point in the day. And maybe some flowers from my DH to say thank you.

they do sweetly buy gifts but I want them to be very token as life is so expensive for them.

As previous posters have said, time with your adult child is always appreciated & valued. A bunch of flowers is what I say if I'm asked what can I get you.. Last year I was given pyjamas & this year we're having a massage together & afternoon tea although not on the day but I don't mind I'm grateful for her thoughtfulness, time & effort to combine two things she knows I will enjoy. I would love the steam train too.

DS doesn't 'do' cards, thinks they're a rip off. That's fine with me, I get a long and chatty phone call, sometimes flowers and/or a special bottle of something lovely. (He's a wine buff.)

I would love something that means something to that individual child. A homemade card, time together which the child really enjoys too, a plan that the child enjoys that means something- any of these would be wonderful. The main thing is the feeling that the child actually wants to do something with and/or for me, whether that is making a card, or doing something together.

W2

I got my mum a Sainbury’s voucher and a box of chocolate. My son got me some flowers and a lovely bottle of red