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Been referred to adult socail care and accepted today

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StressMagnet · 20/02/2023 16:37

I have four kids, three are school age and diagnosed with SEN. The eldest finished his A levels last year and I suspect he also has autism. He was borderline on a ADOS at 12. Two of my children have an inherited genetic duplication inherited from their dad who I now strongly suspect has learning difficulties or a personality disorder.

I'm always trying to fix things, fix the kids education, fix my husband. I'm done. I feel so relived my struggles have been taken seriously for once.

My eldest has mental health struggles but refuses every offer of help. In fact he has a reason why he can't do anything. I have offered him driving lessons, a car, pay for his cbt, pay for moped but he doesn't want to drive a car. He can't get a moped without all the leather gear etc. So for any given opportunity, he can't do it because.... he he was a persistent school refuser.

My husband had 45k of debt on a dmp then three months before Christmas got another 7k built up on another credit card. He lied and lied and practically needed to drag the truth out of him and he was lieing up to point I logged onto his account.

My mum is getting old and frail. She is also is someone who "how I ment to do that then?" To everything. Give her a lift to her sisters funeral? How can you possibly do that then? Needs a shunt to drain fluid from her brain? How could she possibly get to London?

I'm surrounded by helpless victims who can't possibly help themselves.

I'm sick of my eldest son.

I'm sick of my husband

I'm sick of my mother.

I have three kids at school that no one advocates for but me. But dispite running myself sick with stress trying to get their education straight I'm just judged for what I don't do. I really really hate my life. If it wasn't for the youngest needing me I would run away. I have to keep on pushing my eldest to get his uni applications in but any offer of help is me nagging. I feel like I need to offer the help to get him to uni but mentally I'm done. He is so ungrateful. Wants a normal life but not studying or working. Can't possibly work for minium wage. But needs money. Complains the house is a mess. Does nothing at all to clean up

OP posts:
Keshnd1 · 04/02/2024 07:15

Hi I'm new to this site and I'm just wondering if anyone out there can help or advise please..
My daughter disclosured to me that she felt when she to stop at her dad's the weekend her dad used to touch her places that he shouldn't be also she felt treated diff than her brother.

It took her 3 years to tell me bout this and I'm very proud of her obviously u did the right thing and Informed police which informed socail services child protection for obvious reason which at the time was really good because had professionals we could talk to
dad was arrested in rape charge but then released in bail not to contact my daughter which he still has the check to try contact her I've told s.servuces this and the police again and nothing is been done .
he not allowed to see his daughter or son atm but grand parents are his dude where his current bail address is but grandparents have to see kids away from family home.
Since they have been meeting children I've noticed a change in my daughter behavior again and they have stared making aligaysins against me WHICH ARE Nothing BUT LYES and just bitter ness and I got everything to bk up its lyes....
But my s worker confined in my daughter that is was grand parents who made anonymous reports bout me towards s services and what my daughter has just been thro I feel like why is s worker putting that extra pressure on her and why dudnt s worker tell me nit confined in my daughter could u get my s.worker done for grooming abuse and feel like she got trust of my daughter at one point like getting to like her hobbies and always mentioning them to try start conversation. even give my daughter he telephone number to contact her bout worries etc ...
Which I didn't mind until other day I mes my s.worker she never got to me so mess her of my daughters phone message bk within seconds so I tryed to rinvg her declined the call but mess my daughter bk again

Unsainted8 · 04/02/2024 07:34

Keshnd1 · 04/02/2024 07:15

Hi I'm new to this site and I'm just wondering if anyone out there can help or advise please..
My daughter disclosured to me that she felt when she to stop at her dad's the weekend her dad used to touch her places that he shouldn't be also she felt treated diff than her brother.

It took her 3 years to tell me bout this and I'm very proud of her obviously u did the right thing and Informed police which informed socail services child protection for obvious reason which at the time was really good because had professionals we could talk to
dad was arrested in rape charge but then released in bail not to contact my daughter which he still has the check to try contact her I've told s.servuces this and the police again and nothing is been done .
he not allowed to see his daughter or son atm but grand parents are his dude where his current bail address is but grandparents have to see kids away from family home.
Since they have been meeting children I've noticed a change in my daughter behavior again and they have stared making aligaysins against me WHICH ARE Nothing BUT LYES and just bitter ness and I got everything to bk up its lyes....
But my s worker confined in my daughter that is was grand parents who made anonymous reports bout me towards s services and what my daughter has just been thro I feel like why is s worker putting that extra pressure on her and why dudnt s worker tell me nit confined in my daughter could u get my s.worker done for grooming abuse and feel like she got trust of my daughter at one point like getting to like her hobbies and always mentioning them to try start conversation. even give my daughter he telephone number to contact her bout worries etc ...
Which I didn't mind until other day I mes my s.worker she never got to me so mess her of my daughters phone message bk within seconds so I tryed to rinvg her declined the call but mess my daughter bk again

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