It's just a rant, feel free to ignore.
DS (aged 9) has a health condition that in a nutshell means he develops something similar to benign tumours in one part of his body. They don't turn into cancer but they damage his bones if not removed in time. Last month he had one removed and he was showing initial signs of another one growing. Today we see the consultant to see if he needs another major 4 hour operation or whether we watch and wait. Understandably I'm terrified.
I am fed up of my immediate family being so casual about it (apart from my grandad who is being lovely). They were also really huffy about being asked to babysit my other dc despite very rarely being asked and only if I'm desperate, not to go out and have fun. Thing is, if SIL's dc have any minor health problem or if SIL just fancies going out then they get all the offers to babysit, talking in hushed whispers as if they have a terminal illness, offers of the comfiest chair when someone else is sitting in it etc. Hard to describe but it's really annoying. I don't expect much but an acknowledgement that ds has been through major surgery and is likely to face more soon would be nice. DS has got several different health problems and he's had 23 operations for various things in his short life.