Want everyone to like me?

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How do people get over wanting people to like them?

I live my life quite peacefully, not causing any dramas. I HATE the thought of someone not liking me or talking behind my back.

An example, someone has recently removed me from their followers on Instagram & unfollowed me. It's someone who I would say was a friend. Instead of just accepting it, I've obsessed with whet I could have done to make them do that. I've looked back on old posts, wondering which one tipped them over the edge.

It's exhausting. I've got such low self esteem. Has anyone read any books that have helped?

You need to question why its so important to you,, You managed perfectly well without them in your life before you met them! Why are they so much better a person than you? which they aren;t! Why do you need them/want them? What do they bring to your life and more so what do you bring to theirs? You will not be everyones cup of tea this is natural and there is nothing wrong with that most of us in that situation just rub along with politeness and respect, Even the most well loved celebrities ,royalty, work colleagues are not all universally liked most have to deal with hurtful critiszism in equal measure,They wont be bothered by the who doesnt like or care people they focus on who loves them because they know they are comfortable in their own skin. People grow,change and move on in life,maybe being unfollowed is a situation has been outgrown and not relevant anymore,it doesnt mean you did anything or you are a bad person.I am as ordinary as you can get,boring,set in my ways and I am the opposite of you,I am so happy and content in my life and part of this is an age thing I really believe that,I know me,I know my limitations I know what I excel at and I think by accepting me warts and all it makes life easier for me as I dont need anyones approval. I trust myself that if I make a good decision or crap decision I will own it and move on, I can hopefully live my days without ever intentionally hurting anyone else whilst not giving a flying monkey about their opinion of me or how they gossip about me as at the end of the day when all is said and done it really doesnt matter.Start by trusting you,believing in you,accepting your good assets and your limitations that should help you build up some confidence, Accept you are as worthy of being respected and treated decently as anyone else,cos you are and you should be.Not everyone will like you and thats ok.Its not a reflection on you,it just means everyone is different and thats ok too,the right people will gravitate to you all on their own,

Hi @creamwitheverything. Thank you so much for taking the time to reply to me. What you're saying is so true. I've screen shot your reply to look back on. Thanks again.