What is reasonable screen time for 14 year old?

[Daisylily]

Really struggling with DD 14 and her phone.
she’s on it from the moment she wakes until bed. Even in the toilet, walking down stairs, drying hair, school run.
we’ve tried to set limits before but she gets restful as none of her friends have limits. It’s just so unhealthy and we have so many arguments. It’s mostly tik-tok. Very little social interaction with the few friends she has. Any advice on how to have a non-confrontational discussion about it.
she has no hobbies/interests. Used to read a lot but now that’s gone. Only child which doesn’t help.

Anyone?

Hey,

My boy is heavily restricted, some would argue it's a dictatorship but the alternative is what you are describing and it just became too much. Every chance whipping his phone out to mindless google, play games and watch you tube. My son has his phone blocked from internet access until after tea and can use it till bed time 10pm- 11pm.

What do you do on weekends?

Thank you.
@newwings have you always had restrictions? It’s going to be harder enforcing restriction now that she’s had unchecked use. But I can’t watch her waste her life on mindless nonsense.
@GoodChat we used to do days out/cinema/theatre but now the only thing that interests her is shopping.
outings are nice if she has a friend along but that’s not always possible and she’ll just refuse to come. Life isn’t good at the moment.

Mine are 16&15 and the only restrictions they've had for a couple of years is no phones at the table or if we're having a conversation then the screen is off (not just paused or muted).

That's all I've felt necessary to be honest though as they both have a social life and one plays rugby so they're not just sat in their rooms alone.

My DS is 14, year 10. His phone is locked overnight, but that's it. He absolutely loves his phone but he can and does still chat to us, have a meal etc without it.

I'm the unpopular parent who limits their 14 yo's phone, luckily dd has a couple of friends with similar minded parents so they bonded about how strict/lame we are.

We use google family link and she is restricted to 3 hrs on weekdays, 4 on weekends, phone locks 8pm-7am weekdays, 9pm-7am weekends. This is plenty imo.

Some phone features are available all the time, spotify, messenger, calls.

Same as OP she would literally go on it all day and night long if we didn't put restrictions.

I also limit certain apps like you tube to 2 hrs, snap chat 1 hr etc. No tic toc.

I always try and be a bit flexible if she asks for additional time or she wants to message her friends later on.

She has a close group of friends but they don't tend to socialize much outside of school unfortunately and she has a sport she does on the weekends. So way too much free time to spend on devices every evening.

I plan to phase out the restrictions over the next couple of years, but the bedtime one will stay in some form for a few years.

Thank you all for the replies.
I’m just so fed up of it being the constant cause of arguments.

I have this issue with my 15 year old. We discovered that she had spent 19 hours on TikTok in one week! This was alongside doing her sport, her volunteering, homework, her twice weekly music commitments as well as a tutor two evenings a week. I'm befuddled how she managed but she did! We have now placed limits on everything which has been hellish but we are sticking to our guns

Also has never had her phone in her room overnight so it's quite the achievement!