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What am I going to do about this party?

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Goldplatedbag · 18/02/2023 13:30

I have a group of friends, we're a bit of a hotch potch of people with very different lives, but we're all single and enjoy a night out so we go out about once month. I see/talk to some of them in between but not all.

Several months ago we went to see a band. One of the men's mum's was there. She is an amazing woman in her 70s and we had a blast with her and her similarly aged friends.

As we were leaving she invited us all to a party she's throwing for her daughter, my friend's sister. I've never met sister. All the group agreed to go. He's since repeated the invitation on our group chat and most still said they would go.

The party is tonight and I've discovered that almost everyone has dropped out. I think they let him know, but not the group iyswim. There's now just me and three "possibles" who will let me know later.

I'm generally very much an if I said I'll be there, I'll be there person, but this is starting to feel uncomfortable.

Friend is someone I once thought I might have "something" with, but he's backed off a lot since we had a "moment" at Christmas. That's Ok and probably for the best, but it still makes it a bit weird for me to turn up alone at his family party. I'm his mother's guest , not his and I'd assume he'll have lots of other people to entertain.

I think, but don't know, that mother's friends will be there, so I could hang out with them and that would probably be fun.

It's very late to cancel, but otoh, probably no one will notice or care that I'm not there.

WWYD?

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WhyDoesItAlways · 18/02/2023 13:33

I would go with an early exit plan if needed.

Rodneyisaplonker · 18/02/2023 13:34

I’d go, you don’t need to stay long.

spacechimp79 · 18/02/2023 13:35

I would definitely just go, as I think it's dreadful how many people pull out of any commitment on the day because they think it's just them so no big deal. Just stay an hour or so.

rainbowstardrops · 18/02/2023 13:47

I agree. Just go and see what it's like and then say you've got a really bad headache or whatever. It might be really good fun!

Pinkfrogs45 · 18/02/2023 13:50

Go, it could be a sliding doors moment! As others said just have an exit plan if needed

GoodChat · 18/02/2023 13:51

I think you should go. This might have all been planned intentionally tbh...

CaptainMyCaptain · 18/02/2023 13:54

I agree with the others. What have you got to lose? You can leave early if you need to.

Goldplatedbag · 18/02/2023 13:57

I know. My biggest concern is actually that I was hoping to share a cab and will now have to organise that myself.

I hate relying on taxis. I never feel completely confident that they will turn up! Which is inconvenient in a group but no fun at all on your own.

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UsingChangeofName · 18/02/2023 14:00

I'd go.
I'd drive, then not reliant on anyone else re timings.
It is horrible when people drop out after saying they will go to something.
You never know, you might have a ball, but if not, it's still a couple of hours doing something different from a boring night in, and you'll know you gave it a chance.

Holly60 · 18/02/2023 14:02

I'd go. I've done this very thing quite recently and actually ended up having a great time with complete strangers.

zurala · 18/02/2023 14:06

Go. It sounds like it will be fun, and if it isn't just call a taxi and go home. You won't be waiting in the cold, you'll be in a house. I think you'll end up having a great time.

RoobarbandCustud · 18/02/2023 14:12

Aw I'd go. I honestly think you'll have a blast. Are you certain the thing with the Friend has run it's course?

Goldplatedbag · 18/02/2023 14:17

RoobarbandCustud · 18/02/2023 14:12

Aw I'd go. I honestly think you'll have a blast. Are you certain the thing with the Friend has run it's course?

No, but I'm not messing about with his games.

Mostly I'm happily single and I think he is too and doesn't want to mess things up with the group, which I get. Then stuff happens 😆

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Cascais · 18/02/2023 14:20

Go

dapsnotplimsolls · 18/02/2023 14:51

Go but be prepared to leave early if you end up feeling awkward. Don't get drunk and let 'stuff happen' :)

rainbowstardrops · 19/02/2023 07:46

Did you go @Goldplatedbag?

Goldplatedbag · 19/02/2023 08:04

Yes, in the end 2 of the three possibles came and we had a good evening. I'm paying for ir now though 😆 I'm meeting them for a run followed by fry up shortly. Best cure there is!

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mondaytosunday · 19/02/2023 08:51

My mum always said to never turn down an invite!
So glad you went and had a good night!

LadyWithLapdog · 19/02/2023 08:54

Enjoy the run 🏃‍♀️

rainbowstardrops · 20/02/2023 11:56

Glad you went!

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