Does anyone understand men?

[Tabbycat33]

Reading the thread about the rugby player got me thinking why would you throw your life away for something that appears meaningless?

Yes men want the sexy woman but then sometimes you hear they want the girl next door (someone they can relate to)

Of course they are all different but what I can see their tastes are so different from what we (women) expect? A woman's view of what a man wants is totally different to what they want?

Q Does anyone understand men?
A No, not really.
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I've only "owned" mine for 20yrs, and didn't get an instruction manual, so it's been tough working out which buttons to push and when. Recently he's re-learned his dishwashing capabilities...so I must be doing something right as well as buying bigger marigold gloves

Mine needs reprogramming or it will be getting redeployed.

Mine previous appliance proved useless so
it went back to the manufacturer ( his mother )

current model is fairly easy to understand - generally is straightforward says what he means and means what he says

When it comes to readily available, no strings sex, they're really not that fussy. 'Types' tend to fly out of the window.

Straight forward, yes in theory but their preference does matter for casual sex. It is just that their casual sex type is a different type to their relationship type but if you fit neither category there is no moving them!!

I would like tops on reprogramming 😀

Tips not tops

Erm self respect?

There are good men out there. We just don't hear about them because they're busy with their wives and families.

You can have too much self respect. Sometimes you realise you need to compromise or at least make changes

Of course there are good men. Just trying to understand what is appealing from humour, looks, hobbies etc. If is so complicated

More confused in middle age than I was as a teenager. Sometime wisdom doesn't provide the answers

You don't need to "understand" men. No one can really understand anyone else - of either sex. You need to understand yourself and be quite clear on what is acceptable to you. Then find the person that is in agreement and just get on with it. My husband is kind, considerate and has always pulled his fair share of childcare, housework etc but I was quite clear as soon as we got together and certainly before we got married and had a child as to exactly what I was expecting from my life partner. And have continued with my expectations. He was free and still is free to leave at any point if he isn't happy. But if he stays, he is an equal partner, in the good stuff and the bad. It makes me sad (and a little bit cross) that so many women accept less than they deserve.

Tbh I think Internet porn has just changed the game for everyone not just men. So many sad sack boring blokes are now so lost in fringe shit they can't even get a hard on. The ones who can get a hard on are off shagging everything that moves. I'm glad I no longer give a shit.

‘He’ by Robert A Johnson is on my to-read list. His book ‘She’ was quite interesting. Everyone’s individual but there are archetypes that run through society.

From what I can gather, many men want to marry a motherly type who'll have their children, cook and clean etc. but who will happily turn a blind eye if they're lazy, watch sports, go to the pub, do hobbies, look for someone else to have sex with.

Men are like cats, they like a comfy home with plenty of food, but won't hesitate to wander off elsewhere in search of some new 'experiences'. They like to return to the warm hearth though 🙄

Men are angry with women because we won't put up with that kind of behaviour any more. We have more choices now and can support ourselves and men don't like this. They're their own worst enemy really.

Some men are happy to act responsibly and won't go off in search of other women or doing time consuming hobbies.