Name for puppy

[Thelightzareon]

We are collecting a 4 month old puppy this weekend, my DC have picked out a name for her they have always wanted to use for a pet. The argument DP and I are having is that the name is actually his ex partners first name too. It wouldn’t be an issue if it wasn’t for the fact he has a 13 year old son with this woman. I’ve never met her nor intend to (long back story), it may be hurtful to my step son but in general I don’t see an issue as it’s a common name anyway and isn’t being used maliciously. DP wants the DC to change the name but I don’t think they should have to. Who’s being unreasonable?

Change the name. It may or may not be an issue, but why would you want to leave the dog with an ex’s name?

Please make sure the puppy has been well socialised - there’s a limited window, which your puppy may now have missed, which could lead to behavioural issues if under socialised.

Awful idea, you should absolutely change the name for the sake of your step son. Imagine if it was the other way round and you’d split up with your DP and he called a new dog your name! Plus your DP has to stand and call his ex’s name every day trying to recall the dog!

4 months is already quite old, I'd assume she's already responding to a name? Can you use that as a reason not to use the ex name? Even if you don't stick with what she's already called you could say to dc it needs to sound like that or have same number of syllables

No it's a terrible idea

There are millions of names - choose one that nobody is going to take offence at.

Definitely not that name

I’ve never met her nor intend to (long back story), it may be hurtful to my step son but in general I don’t see an issue

This doesn’t sound like the sort of friendly amicable situation where nobody could perceive any malice or upset intended. You clearly dislike his ex and apparently don’t care much about her child’s feelings. Pick another name.

Change the name , it’s a terrible idea .

Sounds like you're getting a nice little kick out of calling his ex a dog/bitch. I don't believe you that there's no malice, when you're willing to upset your DP and your stepson for the sake of something that is completely avoidable and unnecessary.
Don't think this shows you in a very nice light at all tbh, how pointlessly unkind..

I'm wondering why the DC were ever allowed to fix on this name in the first place? Unless they aren't joint DC and they had this name picked out before you met your DP?

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My DC aren’t DP’s children they’ve had it picked out for years before we even met. His ex never wanted to meet me and I have no issue with this after she abused her own son and lost custody. Obviously he still loves his mum but he rarely sees her. I accept the fact you all vote it unreasonable, but there is not one factor in this that I’m doing it to be spiteful, why would I want to willingly remember the woman’s name every day? It was my DC choice and nothing to do with me. They have agreed to change it slightly so it’s a similar name but not the exact same so issue now over.

Totally unfair to your poor stepson.

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