Depression denial, trauma caused by parent

[Lostwifehelp]

My husband is going through depression (I think) except he doesn’t think it’s depression and thinks he’s fundamentally changed as a person after certain realisations about his childhood. As a result he’s unwilling to seek help (therapy or medication).

His trauma is related to an aspect of his religious upbringing. His mother has apologised for it but continues to be part off a religious cult. This is unacceptable to him because this shows to him that she hasn’t really understood and her apology is hollow. I think it’s impossible to change her religious views. He thinks once he has completely messed up his life she might realise how bad her religious cult is. Why he needs that I don’t understand. He’s obviously deeply hurt.

I love him and want to help him but I feel completely lost.

He definitely needs therapy. Encourage him to find a good counsellor ASAP.

Sorry but her religious cult wouldn't be to blame if he continues to mess his life up now.
He has a choice to heal and move on and live a normal life, or to mantipulate his mother into leaving by destroying his life. His behaviour isn't healthy either.

What cult is it? Scientology?

@MeMyCatsAndMyBooks
Yes I agree but he refuses to see that he can try to heal himself and he says only she has the ability to heal this.

I don’t really want to say what cult it is but essentially it is seen as a fairly benign religious group by the outside world but it has a scheme in which children are signed up at birth to serve the religious community once they grow up and then are heavily indoctrinated that their only purpose and value in life is to do this. It’s messed up and has understandably caused a a lot of issues for him.