Happy not to have fuss on valentine's?

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Anyone else with me?
We've been married nearly 17 years, and don't need a fabricated day to prove how much we love each other.
DH is going to cook, like he does most days, and I'll wash up.
Who says romance is dead hey!?!?

That’s ok if that’s what you want.
some people like the effort that’s put in and some don’t really care for it, so it just depends on the person

Been together 19 years, married 14. Also won't be making a fuss. The kids are unwell or we'd have done a hike - which is our favourite way of spending time together.

Never have, never will. 30 years of marriage says enough about our relationship to make Valentines' Day redundant.

Me. Most of the couples I know who make a big fuss on valentines spend the rest of the year arguing. The whole thing is just fake and a money making exercise.

It’s just money making. We never bothered

Same here, been married 20 years and we've not done valentine's day for about 18 years. We don't need a day to declare our love, we do that every day. We don't do cards or presents and simply wish each other a happy valentines day.

We haven't even seen each other this morning as he'd gone to work before I woke up.

It's all just commercialism.

Never bothered. It's always struck me as quite thoughtless really. But other people like it so whatever!
Hate the displays of flowers, chocolates and cards on the way into Sainsbury's it's really minimal effort!

We don't bother either but I might treat myself to discounted chocolates tomorrow!

My husband just brought me up a cup of cappuccino in bed, made with the new milk frother he bought me (cos he knows I like a fancy coffee). And he got me a bunch of daffs.
I bought him a fancy box of chocolates he likes and a card with a little joke on it that's personal to us. We cooked a steak dinner together last night, cos we're taking the kids to clubs tonight.
We've been married 13 years, together for 16 and have three children but it's nice to make a little effort. Doesn't have to be expensive, just a little time spent. It's not a replacement for being nice the rest of the time, but it always feel nice to be noticed!

Nope. Together 8 years, married 3, never done anything - we go on dates / get each other gifts often. Don't need an excuse to be nice to each other.

I'm with you on this!

Not bothering with the boyfriend but my best mate and myself always exchange cards.

It's just personal preference and I guess the way different people view it. I can see why some people just see it as a marketed ploy designed to make money, but I can also see why some people see it as an opportunity to celebrate and spoil their other half. No right or wrong and no harm done either way, as long as both people in the relationship feel the he same about it.

I’m not bothered in the slightest. Been together 22 years, married for 13. I’ve never been bothered with it. It’s just a money making ploy.

My mate manages a “niace” restaurant and says the only couples who make it out for valentines are either very young/in the early part of a relationship or in marriage counselling/on the brink of divorce

We’ve never ‘done’ Valentine’s Day. I passed a lay-by today where someone was selling
red bouquets out of the back of a van and it was one of the most depressing things I’ve ever seen.

I will, however, buy myself some half-price flowers tomorrow

In a similar situation to you and pay no attention to it. It made me smile to hear 2 20 something girls discuss the valentines efforts of their boyfriends or love interests and also to see a young girl on the bus carrying flowers I assume her DP sent to her work.

We’ve never done anything on Valentine’s Day but I have a husband who will randomly bring presents back from his work trips (toblerone, bottle of duty free perfume), flowers not very often maybe twice a year or leave a note saying he loves me to find in the dog’s bed or on the car dashboard or something.

I have one friend who EVERY YEAR expresses that I must be so disappointed he doesn’t take me out for dinner on 14th Feb but he takes me to dinner frequently! she honestly feels sorry for me in the context of her own relationship where her FB page is a pic of her breakfast in bed, pink wrapped presents and flowers and her going out clothes later. I’m glad she likes it but I don’t think her husband is more “romantic” than mine as she insists he is!

We don't celebrate it either.

I used to think it was sad that my parents never “did” valentines but the older I get the more I realise that there are thousands of small acts of love carried out every day that mean so much more than hearts and flowers - are you okay love?/I made you a cup of tea/I’ve got you the bread you like/I’ve run you a bath/Call me when you get there - the most mundane things

All of the above means more than some cheap red festooned tat. 😁