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Still worrying

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Worryfree · 13/02/2023 23:38

Last month my DS was quite poorly and after a bit of a battle, was finally taken into hospital.

He was there for over a week and during that time became quite poorly. While waiting for tests, we were told it might transpire DS had cancer. I didn't eat, sleep or think straight, till we were finally given the good news that it was a self limiting issue and he could be treated and recover at home. He's since come home and is (thankfully!) getting better.

The issue is, I haven't felt quite right since that week. I feel like it was all quite traumatic, and my brain hasn't accepted that things are ok.

It feels dramatic saying it out loud because he is fine. He's absolutely fine. And it feels silly because other parents don't always get that good news.

I just wondered if anyone had any experience around what might be happening and how long it might take for my brain to catch on? I had to pass the hospital today and could barely look at the place. I just feel a low level sense of anxiety looming every day and feel like crying if I think too hard about those few days.

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DuplicateUserName · 13/02/2023 23:41

I'm not doctor but it sounds like you're suffering from the trauma now that the adrenalin and initial anxiety has calmed down.

Maybe it'll right itself in time but if it doesn't, perhaps a trip to your GP would be in order.

I'm so happy for your good news OP Flowers

sendbackaletterfromamerica · 14/02/2023 07:08

Oh god, I can totally understand that. You lived in fear of the actual worst happening. I can fully understand that will take a toll on your emotions and body. You can't control it and should not feel guilty.

I know this is in no way the same but I had a traumatic, terrifying birth and found it hard to get over it. I felt guilty about this as my baby was fine. But the trauma didn't just go away and I couldn't control this. It sounds like this kind of thing has happened to you. It is a form of post/traumatic shock.

Talking and talking helps. See your doctor for sure but talking and processing that you've lived through an extremely traumatic and upsetting time will make a difference. Don't feel guilty. Thank god your news is good. You can't help struggling to process this hard time though.

Worryfree · 14/02/2023 09:32

Thank you both. I will consider going to a doctor if it doesn't settle.

@sendbackaletterfromamerica I hear you. Both of my experiences of childbirth were traumatic where we both almost died - both times. So unlucky. It took a really long time to get over, and I ended up needing counselling and anxiety medication. I really hope you're doing better now and have the support you need - it's such a difficult time 💐

For me this feels different to that. Certainly not as extreme. I can't even articulate it very well, things just feel 'off' in my mind. I suppose it was a trauma in some way. It feels difficult to say that as everything has turned out ok. I feel a bit guilty maybe. I don't even know.

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