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Feel like sh*t

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User9173747 · 13/02/2023 08:56

Name change for this one.

So I met this guy online a few months ago. We ended up hooking up and it was pretty fun but afterwards he told me that he basically didn’t want to date and was just looking for something very casual. I said fine but everytime we tried to arrange to meet up he would make up an excuse etc. However he would regularly sext me to get off.

This carried on and on until a few weeks ago where he let me down at the very last minute and quite frankly I had just had enough. I ended up blocking him for my own sanity and this was all fine until the weekend just gone. I was out with my friends, quite drunk, and I’d been ghosted by a guy last week who I was dating and thought was going well.

I ended up unblocking the first guy because I was a bit sad and lonely. To my complete and utter surprise, he ended up coming over to mine and sleeping with me. The sex was pretty good - I knew it was just a hook-up but it was fun. He figured though that I had blocked him and asked me why. I was honest and said I was frustrated he never made any firm plans to meet up etc.

Didn’t hear from him all of yesterday and then realised last night he has blocked me on everything. I know this is for the best but I feel completely and utterly used. I am pretty sure that he came over full well knowing what he was doing - that he was going to have sex with me, and then block me afterwards to make a point. It was all a bit of an act.

I just feel so stupid and naive and I know I walked into this through my own actions and should have just kept him blocked, because now I just feel like utter crap. I would never ever do that to someone right after having sex with them - that’s pretty shitty right?

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Euchariahere · 13/02/2023 09:06

I know I walked into this through my own actions and should have just kept him blocked

This. This. This.

It may or may not be shitty but you knew what you were doing and now you have hopefully learned a lesson.

stbrandonsboat · 13/02/2023 09:32

This is what happens when you base everything on sex. It's only ever about sex 🤷

frozendaisy · 13/02/2023 09:44

You used him because you were sad and lonely.
He was at a loose end for a hook up.

Chalk it down to experience.

Block him again so you don't even know if he unblocks you or not. And park it in the past.

Dinersaur · 13/02/2023 09:48

Ah that is a shit thing to do and can see why you feel shitty. You knew it wasn't going to be anything more than sex though I guess. Block him back on anything you can and be grateful you can't contact him again in a moment of weakness. We rely on these encounters for a bit of a boost when we feel shitty and lonely but the reality is they only ever make it worse, really.

User9173747 · 13/02/2023 10:05

Thanks @Dinersaur. I just think what he did was so devious and quite hurtful and I’ve certainly learnt a lesson from it.

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