Do you want people to mention weight loss?

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If you've obviously lost weight, do you want people to mention it?

I know some people won't in case it comes across that they are being rude.

I love people commenting on it. Equally, what I don't like is when someone says I've lost weight just because they know i am dieting (and there's no significant weight loss)!

As with everything, I'd sooner people were just honest!

I could take it or leave it when I lost a lot of weight. There are only two comments I remember.

First - a colleague who I hadn't seen for a while - 'Lovely to see you, you are looking well' Brilliant, because people often say that when you have put weight on - she was clearly aware and responded with a positive but neutral comment.

Second - my brother - You look better.

Draw your own conclusions from the second.

Well I assumed that people who have been working on losing weight would like their success to be mentioned (perhaps because I would).

In future perhaps I should just tell someone they are looking well?!

@NannyGythaOgg , where I come from 'looking well' means carrying extra pounds/stones. I think to some it means you look great.

Someone once described me as well-built (meaning built like a brick wall to me, as that was how I'd previously always heard it)
Someone described me as having child-bearing hips (I have narrow hips, but I think it was someone thick, thinking it was a compliment)
Someone once told me I had a big bum (I don't)

I don’t want comments on my appearance, positive or negative, from anyone.

It's rude and uncalled for. I've lost a shitload of weight because of a health concern and I detest the "skinny" comments. I always come back with "Yes, and it's not for a good reason".

What I noticed and really really annoyed me was that I lost weight at the same time as my DP and he got a very different reaction, people would ask him if he had lost weight on purpose and if he felt better for it and stuff like that.

I immediately just got, oh you look great, well done.

and yes I’m over analysing it, but, it did start to grate tbh, like because I’m a woman there was no need to check I hadn’t been ill or anything, just jump straight to it’s always a good thing for women to lose weight.

No thanks, same as I wouldn't like comments if I put on weight. I have known people with eating disorders being told they look great. I would just like to feel great and get on with it.

The thing is, it highlights their previous 'failure' equally as much as it highlights their recent 'success'.

That’s the thing - I would never see anyone’s losing weight as an achievement or a success, any more than than I would their gaining weight, or indeed staying the same weight. How is it a success or an achievement?

You don’t actually have to say anything about their appearance at all, unless they invite it. There are many many other things to talk about

Exactly! I used the term success as that was what the poster said. The poster was clearly suggesting that weight loss is an achievement which requires commenting on. People who comment on weight loss always do so in a patronising 'well done' way.

It is not an achievement or success and is in fact not noteworthy in any way, and needs no comment.

No I don't, (I'm 5'4" and weigh 41kg) no more than someone would welcome comment if they are at the other end of the scales. I think it's rude. I have a mirror and I also don't need anyone to ring or pop in to see DH at work because you're concerned.
I have a life limiting condition and am tube fed. I don't want to be like this.

Absolutely not. I don't want people commenting on my appearance at all. I find it rude and awkward.