What is friend implying?

[Choco865]

Hi all,

I’m really confused. So when I take annual leave I try to visit my friend who is 2 hours away. I’m on two week holiday. We have a bakery and I normally take her some fresh pastries, cakes (which she loves) etc from the shop so we can have with coffee. Today I messaged her to ask if she is free so I can come in the week. She replied I can only come if I bring xyz. Xyz mutual friends. They are all working. She said to not come without them. she has done this before but I didn’t think much of it. Iv said they are working and one time I went other times I didn’t. Now I’m thinking what is she implying? I messaged back I wont be able to come then as they are all working. No one is available. this person is meant to be my closest friend. I think I just realised we aren’t really as close as I thought we were. After I replied saying I won’t come then she didn’t reply back.

any thoughts on this?

@Strugglingtodomybest I get what your saying. Would have been nice of her to spell out but im thinking dont come without them clearly means not to come.

@BOOTS52PollyPrissyPants really not sure as she is outgoing etc and has so many friends.

i think I just accept it and move on.

aw feck her as you sound lovely and can visit me in Ireland and bring me some cakes and have a natter, big hugs as after your update she sounds rude and not worth your friendship and loyalty to her. I had a really close friend and after my mum passed she never even visited me for a cuppa or asked how I was and even at the funeral she was just flirting with the men and barely spoke to me or my family. She always wanted nights out with lots of her friends who I did not know and never made the time for us to do something, we are not friends anymore as she just always had to be out and about and centre of male attention. Let her go as you deserve better.

Very odd if she is serious.

So what would she have said if you had said " they can't/don't want to come, so it'll just be me - is 'x' time ok" - would she have turned around and said " no you aren't invited". I'm not sure it makes sense really, and would ask her for clarification.

Equally though it doesn't sound like the friendship brings you much OP, we all deserve more than that and I certainly wouldn't traipse 2 hours to visit a person a whole day of my annual leave if they were so unreceptive and uninterested. Spend your annual leave on yourself, get those lovely cakes and enjoy them!

@BOOTS52PollyPrissyPants thats so sweet of you!! Thank you :) iv decided to let it go. Feel soo hurt.

@dontgobaconmyheart I just feel if I ask she’ll end up saying come? But I can’t seem to get over her first comment. She clearly doesn’t like my company anymore. If she prefers xyz i’ll just leave it at that. I wouldn’t want to drag xyz everytime I decide to visit. Its made me feel so weird.

@dontgobaconmyheart like you say I’ll spend it on myself. :) more to eat 🤣