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Handhold please

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duzzlightyearsmum · 11/02/2023 01:47

They’ve just taken DS in for emergency surgery. He’s 10 and has ASD and he was so anxious it was horrendous. He’ll only be in for around an hour but I’m sat here sobbing and just needed somewhere to let it out.

sorry - I know people do this all the time and for much more hideous reasons than us

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Chickenkeev · 11/02/2023 01:49

That sounds really hard. Am here for the foreseeable.

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duzzlightyearsmum · 11/02/2023 01:50

Thanks. It was just awful having to hold him still whilst they gave him the anaesthetic and he was so upset. I know he will be fine but it’s just shit sometimes isn’t it?!

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Chickenkeev · 11/02/2023 01:53

It's the worst. BUT you're in the best place! So so difficult at the time though, urgh. What are you up to now?

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nats2010 · 11/02/2023 01:54

It can be overwhelming when you have a child going for surgery. You feel helpless and out of control. Be assured your child is in the best possible hands. If you can, go get yourself a drink and a snack, ready to be available for him when he gets out to recovery. He will need you to be a strong, loving and supporting presence for him after surgery and to be able to do that for him you need to just take a brief step back and look after yourself while he is in surgery. You will both get through this. Hugs x

HateEatingInTheDark · 11/02/2023 01:56

It always seems worse in the small hours when everyone is asleep

By the time the sun is up, your hopefully both be sleeping soundly

thaegumathteth · 11/02/2023 01:59

When my son had surgery he was 7 and it was planned and I wasn't anxious at all but for some reason when I saw him 'going under' I became SUPER emotional and I couldn't even articulate why as such, it's just a weird feeling.

Hope you get to see him soon and he's ok

Rainbowqueeen · 11/02/2023 02:03

It’s so tough when they are upset.
Handholding here. Can you use this time to have a cup of tea and something to eat so you can focus on DS when he comes out ???

Take care of yourself so you can take care of him. I hope everything goes well

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duzzlightyearsmum · 11/02/2023 02:28

Thanks everyone. I’ve been doing as you all so cleverly suggested and getting a cup of tea and a bit of fresh air to be ready for him when he wakes up. Shouldn’t be long now.

thanks again for keeping me company

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been and done it. · 11/02/2023 03:18

Hope all is okay. A worrying time for you.

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duzzlightyearsmum · 11/02/2023 06:16

Thanks all. He finally made it back to me around 4am. Surgery complete. He’s been fast asleep since and I’ve managed to grab an hour or so as well

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