Are certain posts getting crazier?

[DontStopMeNow7]

Forgive me if this comes across as unkind because that’s not my intention. I haven’t been using MN for very long. I’m referring to some of the AIBU and relationship posts. A scenario is presented where a DP or DH is clearly being unreasonable/abusive/completely awful in some way.
In some cases to a degree that I’m starting to think either

1. It’s a little bizarre to be wondering if the behaviour is okay or not
2. potentially in some cases it could be made up, but if not -
3. there is a phenomenon occurring where some men are awful to an extent that is at batshit crazy levels

Some posters, myself included, put a lot of emotional effort into giving advice but we don’t always know if these people will be okay or safe. Is this a new phenomenon? - Have MN relationship posts always been like this?

I do understand DV and abuse because I’ve experienced it myself so I’m not trying to victim blame or shame. It just makes me concerned that this is so common. Can anyone relate? Thoughts?

I know what you mean, hopefully they are trolls if not I fucking despair really.

I try and give advice when I can but I am mindful we are only hearing one version and not everyone is telling the truth fully or are totally lying

I find it odd to go into to much effort with a random life with giving advice as again only one side is being told

Your right. 100% with you

Most of them are figments of over active imaginations.

I've blocked the AIBU thread as it really is a dumpster fire and this place and those threads managed before I came here. I'm thinking of doing the same with Relationships and Chat as I'm finding myself getting drawn into stuff.

I've just looked at the Relationship thread and yes I'm blocking that topic too. I'd not realised just how bad it was when I was looking at the posts in isolation. Maybe they are real and need help, but I've a life to lead and I can't spend it here.

Agree, I end up getting frustrated and posting something that then is probably harsh and feeling guilty!
On the other hand am also getting frustrated the random- and they MUST be trolling 'I've been a SAHM for 27 years as I couldn't leave my babies to strangers, my youngest has now finished their 2nd degree, so I now feel I can fly the nest, how much spousal maintenance can I get and will I get 100% of the family home, my DH is boring all he does is work can l get the police to remove him'...

I don't know. I have no idea which posts you're referring to, but when I posted a decade (!!) ago about now ex h and his behaviour I was roundly told each time WTF, leave. It took me a good six months to do so though - the boiling frog analogy is very real. I think when living with someone abusive, you can't make any decisions, even tiny ones, because the abuser might blow up, and so it's very very hard not to lose your mind. When I met DP a few years later he was and still is "why are you asking me that"??? I was conditioned by exh to not think for myself.

I've just hidden Relationships and Chat (as there's a lot of relationship etc stuff there) and this site is pretty boring without it... Which is a good thing. I need to get up and live life, rather than try and sort out other people's.

I hid Relationships and AIBU several years ago and my MN experience is much better for it. I know there has been fantastic support for many women on these boards over the years but there have been so many trolls too.

Yes I've noticed a lot of trolling on Relationships, as well as Chat and AIBU.

Frequently people from other websites are doing for a dare. The game is basically, 'how stupid a scenario can I present on Mumsnet and still get those mad bints to keep replying?' Bonus points for getting into a tabloid newspaper. Double bonus points if the tabloid picks it up from the MN Facebook page.

Ironically (in the modern sense), a lot of the posters who reply are also themselves trolling (and we have bots now, too); and so the horrible mad game continues.

Meanwhile women posting with genuine issues needing compassionate advice are caught up in the increasingly bad-tempered maelstrom of suspicion and frustration. So that's yet another valuable resource for women gone down the shitter.

I'm really here for the Feminism resources these days. And Telly Addicts

Yeh I agree with your replies, some great points ….Thanks and I’m glad it’s not just me. I’m going to hide those threads too.