Issues with friends

[M1418]

So me and my partner of 3 years does not like me going out with my male friend that I grew up with since I was very little my child and his child are friends so time to time they like to play together. My child is not his child but he does get on with very well.

when the relationship started I told him my best friend was male and he was aware of that from the start. Now 3 years into the relationship he does not like it and I feel like I am treading on egg shells when I said I’m meeting up with XYZ and the kids incase he gets Mardy.

he previously has had trust issues in his relationships and does have some paranoia however I’m sick of feeling like I’m doing something wrong when I know I’m not!
i have also offered for him to come along but he’s so stubborn and said he isn’t interested.

i hate it when I’d rather we all just be adults. It’s just nice to see my friend time to time.

a friend is a friend, especially long term ones they are there when everything goes tits up. No one, including dh , can tell me who my friends are because that’s my choice. Choosing not to engage and see it as a friendship is not ok imo. Basically your know it’s not ok but he’s telling you it is , listen to your gut feeling

yeah exactly. It’s just difficult, it feels like he’s making it to be an elephant in the room when there isn’t any need to be.

I think the friendship is likely to outlast the relationship, so hold onto the friend! More seriously, ask yourself if you really want to continue in a relationship with someone so aggressively paranoid.