Okay so this is awful I’m just going to start with that. My kids are (s)24 (d) almost 19. My daughter was in a long term relationship with a trans male ( They started dating two days before the pandemic, he ended up being kicked out of his moms house because he is a non med compliant bipolar person and I didn’t want him in a shelter/streets in the midst of a pandemic so I let him move in. So long story short the first year was b amazing relationship but then his true abusive, jealous nature started showing, fast forward another year and my eldest ended up moving back home because he lost his job due to the pandemic. My daughter got very sick with strep ( hospitalized twice and is still suffering with bouts of swelling in the tonsils) well my son and my daughters partner started hanging out more and now they live together and my daughter is shattered to pieces. I don’t know what to do. I feel like a failure. I certainly didn’t raise him to turn exactly into his dad ( his father slept with my baby sister while I was in the hospital). I love him so much but I am so angry, ashamed, disappointed and a nice long list of depressing words. I just don’t know what to do. I’m broken. I raised my babies on my own and raised them to be so empathetic and be kind to everyone. How did I fail so much. I always thought nurture outweighed nature. I now know, no matter how much I tried to not have a son who turned into my ex, it’s exactly who he is. I’m so lost mums. I have been sitting in my room for 6 weeks bow, in the dark, just crying because I’m so angry but I miss my son so much