Baby Number 2

[CastlesByTheSea]

I have an almost 18 month old. I always wanted more than one child and ideally close age gaps. This year, I have some weddings and big birthdays to attend so a big year for socialising, I don’t know whether to bite the bullet and just try it to wait.

what’s holding me back is silly things like when birthdays would be!!! I don’t know if I want a child to have a December/ January birthday just because it’s such a busy time of year as it is (ridiculous I know!!)

so how do you find it having/ having children with December/ January birthdays?

how do you find having a 2/3 year age gap?

would you wait for “wedding season” to be over or just go for it anyway?

You don't know how long it could take (in the nicest way possible) so I would say go for it 😊

I have 22 months between my boys and adore it!

It really depends on how long it takes you to get pregnant, what happened last time is no guarantee of this time around

I personally really missed my old life, big parties / drinking etc when pregnant then breastfeeding so I was really glad for the freedom of a summer not pregnant/ BF where I had my body / life back for a bit before it all started again. I REALLY enjoyed those weddings and holidays in that time!

if you wouldn’t mind a bigger age gap then no harm to wait but if you would want to be pregnant sooner you might want to crack on

I have 2 years 4 months between mine, also didn't want a Christmas baby (oldest one is June and youngest is Oct). I also wanted 2 years between school years but needed up with 3 because it took us longer than expected to fall (and for one to stick).

My youngest is 4 months at the moment and my oldest is 2 years and 8 months. It's busy! I've kept up childcare for 3 days a week for the older one in preparation for when I go back to work, and quite frankly I don't know if I could function without it. It gives us both a break.

The thing I find hardest at the moment is activities & naps. Little one is starting to get a bit bored but basically just gets carted around for whatever we are doing with the big one. Little one gets very tired on days we are all together because I find it hard to give her the time to nap properly - if we go to a toddler group etc she'll sleep in the car or pram but wake when we get there and struggle to sleep. On days it's just me and the baby she is happier as well slept (I can walk for longer or spend time with her in the cot and settling her etc).

All this aside, I also decided that if I was going to have ONE child then I would want two. It was kinda zero or two for me me.

I find it hard but it's manageable. I wouldn't want a bigger gap because I basically don't want the oldest one to go to school and my time to come back and then go back to baby stage... whilst we had all the stuff we just went for it.

Busy times but long term I think right for us.

I have 2 children - the first has a January birthday and the second a December birthday. DH has a January birthday and isn't keen so we laughed when we found out DD1's due date. DD2 took 27 months to conceive - by that point I didn't care what month she was born and was delighted we were completing our family. The 3 birthdays and Christmas span 5.5 weeks so it's a bit expensive but it's just one of those things