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Neighbour snoring keeps me awake

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NCSQ · 08/02/2023 23:19

I live in a flat in a converted house. It's not purpose built so the walls are thin. The flat below is rented and the new tenant who has recently moved into the flat below mine snores so loudly that it keeps me awake at night. It's so loud that even if I watch TV in bed I can hear the snoring constantly in the background. I can hear it now and it's doing my head in. Also, he sleeps a LOT. He's snoring way before I go to sleep and way after I wake up. It's like it punctuates my day. I used to love a peaceful morning drinking tea in bed.

I know there is nothing to be done. I just want to rant. I wear earplugs to sleep and it's fine. I just feel resentful that as a single woman my peace is being disrupted every night by some random snoring man. Fucking hell it is so loud right now it is doing my head in.

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BandyButter83 · 08/02/2023 23:45

That's horrible situation to be in. Maybe try earplugs, some meditation to try and relax, to make yourself ignore it. Otherwise might have to look for alternative place to live if possible.

It's horrible, I've been in similar noise related situation and it drive me insane. It took a while to get it sorted. I couldn't just make myself ignore it.

Ruth990 · 09/02/2023 00:36

I'd probably knock on his door and ask if he can get some snore strips or a spray 😂 as it's so loud. He'd probably slam the door in my face but worth a shot. He might actually be nice and considerate 🤷‍♀️

Crunchiecase · 09/02/2023 00:46

I could have written this post, although it's driven me so mad before I've purposely thrown things on the floor in a rage 🙈

No advice for you, but I get how hugely infuriating it can be.

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Dartmoorcheffy · 09/02/2023 01:26

I could write your post too almost. After 7 peaceful years we have had a new neighbour move in next door. If she's not coughing all night she's snoring, and when she's awake she's gaming or got music on so there's just constant noise.

I've got ear plugs but they irritate my ears. It's driving me mad.

It's not as bad as living below a pair of constant shaggers though as we had to endure 3 months of at our last flat. They were at it several times a day and we could hear it above the TV.

Witsendwilly · 09/02/2023 01:38

Why the need to mention that you are a woman and the person snoring is a man?

Would it make any difference if it was a woman?

If we lived beneath you it would be our dog keeping you awake with his incessant snoring. Would that be better or worse?

GeorgiaGirl52 · 09/02/2023 02:05

Witsendwilly · 09/02/2023 01:38

Why the need to mention that you are a woman and the person snoring is a man?

Would it make any difference if it was a woman?

If we lived beneath you it would be our dog keeping you awake with his incessant snoring. Would that be better or worse?

The default answer for everything is "earplugs". But women living alone or with children need to be able to hear what's happening around them, even when they are sleeping...a window breaking, a door being kicked in, the dog barking, a child crying, etc. Ear plugs are handicapping.
Also, your dog doesn't know any better and can't help himself.

Justellingthetruth · 09/02/2023 02:08

@NCSQ

are you recording it?
i would and thé. Play to him or the landlord.

Witsendwilly · 09/02/2023 02:23

GeorgiaGirl52 · 09/02/2023 02:05

The default answer for everything is "earplugs". But women living alone or with children need to be able to hear what's happening around them, even when they are sleeping...a window breaking, a door being kicked in, the dog barking, a child crying, etc. Ear plugs are handicapping.
Also, your dog doesn't know any better and can't help himself.

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OP has already says she sleeps with earplugs and it doesn’t cause her an issue. So why the need to mentions it’s a man?

clipclop5 · 09/02/2023 02:29

We are in a semi detached rental right now with horrific sound insulation. From my bedroom I can hear the neighbour’s conversations word for word (sadly she works from home on zoom all day!) and can even hear when their alarms go off in the morning. It is horrific and so disturbing in your own home, I feel constantly on edge due to noise I can’t control so really empathise with you.

Although obviously not ideal the only thing that has helped is playing pink noise with good earphones. I find white, brown noise etc too harsh but this has worked really well for me. Only needs to be played at a low volume to drown things out. Wish I could sleep in silence again but for now it’s the next best thing

Liorae · 09/02/2023 03:02

Witsendwilly · 09/02/2023 01:38

Why the need to mention that you are a woman and the person snoring is a man?

Would it make any difference if it was a woman?

If we lived beneath you it would be our dog keeping you awake with his incessant snoring. Would that be better or worse?

Not just a woman. A SINGLE woman.

Poppins2016 · 09/02/2023 03:17

I feel for you. I once lived in a flat with neighbours upstairs who snored, had loud sex and occasionally had a houseguest with a child who cried a lot during the night.

Do you own or rent? There are things you can do to soundproof the floor, but there are more options if you own. Assuming you're renting (fingers crossed in that respect, as it's easier to move!), you could try putting some interlocking puzzle mat on the floor and then covering with a rug (in part to disguise, in part as extra sound insulation). If renting, I wonder whether your landlord would sort out some soundproofing insulation under the floorboards if you sent a recording or two... it's going to impact future tenancies if/when you leave, after all.

Poppins2016 · 09/02/2023 03:22

Liorae · 09/02/2023 03:02

Not just a woman. A SINGLE woman.

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I assumed the 'single woman' point was made because that should, by default, mean that you're not putting up with a man snoring, whether next to you in bed or in the near vicinity (thinking of my DH who is currently snoring in the spare room having been banished for that reason).

Throwncrumbs · 09/02/2023 03:44

He sleeps a lot because he’s not sleeping properly due to the snoring. He prob has sleep apnoea and needs to see his doctor as it’s a serious health problem. He may need a clap machine. Find a leaflet about it at you GP surgery and post it through his letter box😆

America12 · 09/02/2023 03:44

BandyButter83 · 08/02/2023 23:45

That's horrible situation to be in. Maybe try earplugs, some meditation to try and relax, to make yourself ignore it. Otherwise might have to look for alternative place to live if possible.

It's horrible, I've been in similar noise related situation and it drive me insane. It took a while to get it sorted. I couldn't just make myself ignore it.

She wears earplugs. Earplugs make no difference to me I've tried various types.

journeyofinsanity · 09/02/2023 03:56

@Witsendwilly I agree abd @GeorgiaGirl52 just as with a dog, the man likely can't do anything about it either.

Mojoyoyo · 09/02/2023 04:04

It sounds like an awful situation.
If he’s a decent person and depends how you approach him you might be able to talk to him about it and suggest he uses snore strips or sees a doctor for potential sleep apnoea?

Maybe he doesn’t know he snores so bad and would be mortified.

If all fails, if it was me, I’d be looking to move out.Ultimately, life is too short and the stress and lack of sleep will start to affect your own health.

LynetteScavo · 09/02/2023 04:09

If he's single he might have no idea he's snoring. I think you should politely tell him how much you can hear it.

Having a man invade your personal space when you're single must be horrible- yes it is different to a dog or a horse or a woman, and you're very lucky and naive if you don't realise why.

DoubleGauze · 09/02/2023 04:32

Get a white noise machine op.

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NCSQ · 09/02/2023 06:19

Poppins2016 · 09/02/2023 03:22

I assumed the 'single woman' point was made because that should, by default, mean that you're not putting up with a man snoring, whether next to you in bed or in the near vicinity (thinking of my DH who is currently snoring in the spare room having been banished for that reason).

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Morning. I did sleep! With earplugs in.

Yes, I referenced being a single woman because one of the upsides of that is not having a snoring man in your bed. I have had snoring boyfriends in the past and it's a massive pain in the arse, regardless of how lovely they are when awake. It was a comment about the fact that I don't want a man snoring in my bed (effectively) when I didn't even invite him in.

No way am I moving out. I love my flat and am the owner, whereas he is a new tenant in a rented flat below. I hope he decides to move on soon!

Thanks to those who offered constructive thoughts. I was mainly looking for catharsis but am tempted by the leaflet through the door Grin

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NCSQ · 09/02/2023 06:21

LynetteScavo · 09/02/2023 04:09

If he's single he might have no idea he's snoring. I think you should politely tell him how much you can hear it.

Having a man invade your personal space when you're single must be horrible- yes it is different to a dog or a horse or a woman, and you're very lucky and naive if you don't realise why.

He has a partner living with him but it is a two bed flat and I never hear them talking in the bedroom (I could with other tenants), so I think she sleeps in the other bedroom, for obvious reasons. It is further away from him than my bedroom is above!

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NCSQ · 09/02/2023 06:22

Having a man invade your personal space when you're single must be horrible- yes it is different to a dog or a horse or a woman, and you're very lucky and naive if you don't realise why.

This is also true and those desperately looking for ways to be offended should have a think about it.

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Flavabobble · 09/02/2023 06:33

Justellingthetruth · 09/02/2023 02:08

@NCSQ

are you recording it?
i would and thé. Play to him or the landlord.

Why the landlord?

Justellingthetruth · 09/02/2023 06:44

@NCSQ

well you are loosing amenity due to excessive noise from a neighbour.
it's not ok to make that noise and excuse it due to its snoring

CatOnTheChair · 09/02/2023 06:46

Is yours also a 2 bed flat? Not the best solution for you, but could you sleep in the other bedroom to get away from the noise?

journeyofinsanity · 09/02/2023 07:13

Justellingthetruth · 09/02/2023 06:44

@NCSQ

well you are loosing amenity due to excessive noise from a neighbour.
it's not ok to make that noise and excuse it due to its snoring

I think your approach would be seen as discrimination. Snoring isn't an intentional act. You can't damn someone fur snoring. Even with all the interventions in the world, some people snore. Perhaps they have some issues that increase the snoring. A weight issue, collapsed soft palette.... in any case you are acting like he is inflicting something on the OP intentionally. God help anyone with Tourette's or loud farts.