Would you check in with a friend who broke their leg?

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I am sad today. In pain and stuck in bed/on the sofa. I don’t think I was expecting much from family/relatives. But as the weeks go on I am feeling a little sad that nobody has really checked in on me. just one friend has come round to see me. And other than that I have had a handful of texts offering help with taking kids to activities.

Possibly not other than an occasional message. But it depends on the nature of your injury and abilities/lifestyle.

I broke my leg and was in plaster for several weeks but was still working and running a home. But I was in my 30s and it wasn’t a bad break.

I asked for help with certain things. I asked people to do certain errands. I reached out. I didn’t sit waiting.

people are generally super at the initial point and then fizzle out. They don’t mean to be rude or dismissive it they forget we are still struggling and their lives continue to make demands of them.

so if you need help ask.

if you are bored/lonely and want company suggest folks come and have tea/cake/movie night etc at yours.

but please be proactive about this. How you are up and about soon.

Thanks for your reply. Just needed a reality check as to maybe I am expecting too much

If you broke your leg a few weeks ago I would assume you were not bed bound and possibly still going to work etc. Maybe they dont realise how much it has affected you. Why not call them and ask them if they want to come round for a cuppa and a chat.

Yes i would, but then i know that broken legs can be agony even in a cast, and that crutches arent a breeze.

I can equally see why it might not occur to people how troublesome a broken leg could if they don't stop and consider it. They perhaps just imagine you using crutches to get about (everyone can remember a kid at school who whizzed about with a broken leg having a great time on crutches) and that your main issues will be that you're a tad slower than normal and you can't drive.

I hope you feel better soon. It's rubbish to feel uncared for, but honestly just tell the people you need to know what a hard time it is.

Is it in a usual cast or do you have pins? Id have thought by a few weeks in you'd be able to get up and move about, maybe go out for walks with crutches etc. My son was back to school the next day.

If its a bad break tthen I would probably be a bit bored and lonely, but I wouldnt expect people to keep visiting me either. Id find a good book, a good tv series to get stuck into it

I’d send messages offering help and so on, but wouldn’t go by uninvited. Some people don’t like to be intruded on when recovering at home, learnt that the hard way.

My friend broke her ankle. At the time I was off work on holiday and I was pretty good at having coffee, giving her lifts etc, but if I'm honest once I went back to work I got busy and didn't keep in touch as much as I should have.

No it’s not a really bad break. But I am really tired and finding the crutches exhausting.

If you’re on Facebook you could post about how you’re feeling rubbish and knackered. Maybe ask for recommendations of cheery films or TV series if you don’t want to just complain. Just to give people a heads up that you’re not feeling great.

Awwww, I'm sorry. That seems really harsh! Maybe text them and say you're feeling bored/lonely/struggling? I expect they're just wrapped up in themselves and their lives rather than not really caring, and will be keen to have a chat or come round for a bit if invited.

That's really tough OP

I broke my wrist a few years ago and although my kids were completely independent (in the sense they took themselves to and from school so I didn't need help with them) I was lucky enough to have a great group of friends who popped in, took me for coffee/lunch, walks, shopping.

I really hope your friends step up

Yes I would