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Bored with life

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BeckiC1987 · 07/02/2023 14:23

Just need to ramble right now as I'm feeling so bored of life.

My partner and I have been trying for a baby for some time without success. We've had tests done and found out that he has a very.low sperm count so we will need to have IVF. It's really getting me down and I have now just found out 2 of my very close friends are pregnant so it's hit me even more.

My partner seems to have just accepted what has been said and now we have stopped having sex. I've spoken to him about it and he just tries to make me feel better but then nothing happens. I've spoken to him about his results as I want to make sure he's OK and not just brushing this under the carpet but he says he's fine and what will be will be.

I feel a bit of resentment towards him at the moment because of the news and have found myself picking faults with him as a person in my head. Even though I know it's not his fault I just can't help but think why me.

I went out at the weekend for a friends birthday and got hit on a few times by different men. Even though I would never cheat it made me feel in a way better about myself and just helped me to forget for just a short while.

I was previously in a relationship for 16yrs where I was mentally abused and left to feel like I wasn't good enough so right now I'm feeling like I've been dealt this card because I'm not worth the title of 'mum'

I just feel so bored with life. I never seem to have any happy news so I just feel drained. Everyone around me is always celebrating something happy. Bored of myself because I'm fed up of feeling fed up. Just feel like I haven't got a purpose, i feel empty and each day that passes just becomes harder to feel positive - I'm not having any suicidal thoughts.

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KangarooKenny · 07/02/2023 14:35

But you are moving forward towards the goal of a baby, keep going !
He will probably feel emasculated by the news, is he the type to talk to someone about it ?
Are you on the pathway to IVF now ?

MeMyCatsAndMyBooks · 07/02/2023 14:37

Sorry but it all seems to be about you. What about your partner how does he feel?
He's the one infertile here, you could easily go on and meet someone else and have children yet it's all about yourself? Have you sorted the ivf pathway?

BeckiC1987 · 07/02/2023 15:03

No he won't talk about it really I keep trying but he's closed down and just says if it's meant to be it will happen.
We can't start IVF until I've lost around 5 stone. I'm 1 stone down o far so it seems like it's very distant thought right now and nothing is happening
I keep trying to say that we can't give up as a miracle could still happen but he doesn't feel that way. I just feel that it's never going to happen

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BeckiC1987 · 07/02/2023 15:07

MeMyCatsAndMyBooks I get that it comes across as me me me but honestly that's not how I meant to come across. As above I've tried talking to him several times but he just says we may have missed our opportunity in life and if it happens it happens.

Obviously I'm just writing this from my point of view and looking for support and maybe somebody can give me advice that has been through a similar situation how we can overcome the issues

We are unable to start IVF until I've lost weight

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MeMyCatsAndMyBooks · 07/02/2023 15:10

Just focus on going to the gym and loosing weight. You can easily loose that 4 stone if you focus hard and keep your eye on the goal.
It'll keep you busy & your mind (and eyes) from wandering too. Good luck op.

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