Trying to get 10 year old boy up in the morning!

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Hi, I have recently started struggling to get my 10 year old son out of bed in the morning. He is getting plenty of rest, usually asleep by 9.30, but I'm spending 30 mins or more trying to get him out of bed! Please tell me I'm not alone, and if you have any tips! Thanks!

What time does he wake up? I think 9:30pm is quite late, maybe make bedtime a little earlier and see if that makes a difference.

They are very hard to rouse once they hit the pre-teen/teen years though!

I start trying to wake him at 7.30. He leaves the house at 8.25. He's normally still in bed at 8

I don’t think he getting enough sleep. I would try a much earlier bedtime.

I don't think he is either, thank you

A typical 10 year old needs 9-12 hours sleep.
id bring bedtime forward 15 mins a week untilthe mornings arent a struggle any more.

That's what I say to him, going to have a chat when he's home from school

Are you sure he is not waking up in the middle of the night and sneaking electronic time?
Is he snoring? If so he might have overly large adenoids or allergies that are reducing his quality of sleep
He might just need to go to bed earlier, my 10 yr olds were all in bed at 7pm and asleep by 8 at the latest

The other thing to try is get him an alarm clock and then let him face the consequences of ignoring it, (obviously that only works if he isn't making you/younger siblings late as well).

His phone is taken away from him at bedtime. He certainly doesn't come through and let me know he is awake. He has an alarm clock, but just lets it ring! No, he's not snoring

My 10 year old officially has a bed time of 830, although twice a week isn't home until then. I tell her when she needs to be at the breakfast table, I let her choose when she sets her alarm (615). I go in when it rings to give her a quick hug, 5 mins later to check she's still awake. Usually then she's awake enough to get dressed.

I go for the simple "if you can't get up on time they you need to go earlier to bed." If they complain, I merely remind them it's they didn't get up this morning, obviously they're tired and need to go to bed earlier. On repeat.

Thank you, going to be more strict with this from now on!

We have the same schedule.. but I start waking my 10 Yr old up at 6.45 ! They are supposed to go to bed at 8.30 too but it often drifts to 9.30ish..

When my DD got to 11 or 12 we started to struggle with this and the rule became “feet on the floor”. I would wake her up and I needed to see feet on the floor before I left the room.

9:30! My 10 year old is y6 and lights off 8:30pm

he needs an earlier bed and to stick to it for a week to see the effect.

OP - I have a similar issue. I 100% know that DS needs to go to bed earlier. But it's not always as simple as that - DS and sleep has been an issue since the day he was born. [I once searched the MN name I used during DS' first few years and had to laugh how many were about sleep!]

Having said that, I do tell him that if he can't get out of bed, then he will have to go to bed earlier. And that does motivate him a bit. Usually I'll then insist on an earlier bed time for a little bit and we'll slip back to the later bedtime but he'll be getting up.

Also, while I do not think this is ideal, around here we try to build in at least one day where he can sleep in. It's a bit of a balancing act - if he sleeps in too much he will NEVER go to sleep in the evening and then we're back where we started, but a lie in on the weekend does seem to help. Incidentally, DH is the same - he doesn't get anywhere near enough sleep during the week but a good lie in seems to perk him right up for the week ahead.

Exactly this! In an ideal world, 8.30 would be great, but he sometimes just isn’t tired enough!! All of his friends go to bed way later.

All of his friends go to bed way later.
😂my DD says this too! I just laugh and say it's obvious to her that she needs the sleep and then she agrees. I am slightly concerned about the upcoming residential where they've been told bedtime will be 10 😮I've told her to try and get a bottom bunk in the corner of the room so she can go to sleep earlier if she needs to. But she has always needed lots of sleep.

Don't forget to reassure them it's normal to have nights when you don't fall asleep as easily or sleep badly. DD freaked out one night when she didn't sleep well. I had to explain it happens, it's not the end of the world, she just needs to make sure she goes to bed a bit earlier the next day.

Thank you! Will persevere with the warnings 😂😂

I told mine that if they were too tired to get up they must be going to bed too late. Earlier bedtime usually cured the problem PDQ.