Would you do or say anything here?

[SparkleBrows]

I have two friends. Both single 1M, 1F.

In our group we quite often invite one of the others to be a plus one when needed and usually we're all happy to help.

This female friend has a big thing about male friend. I know because she told me.

Male friend is much more interested in her sister I know this because he told me. He does have an idea about female friend's "crush" but she hasn't told him anything outright. Female friend doesn't know about the sister thing.

Anyway she has invited him to a wedding, which involves lots of travel, a four day trip in all.

He's unsure, but I think will agree to go. She's thinking this could be their chance to get together.

Maybe it is and they'll live happily ever after, but from what he's told me, that's unlikely.

Would you urge caution in female friend or stay well out of it?

Absolutely stay out. Both adults and big enough to make their feelings clear should it arise. Both big enough to cope with it.

It's none of your business and they're both adults. I'd steer well clear. It's not the first time someone has liked someone and it hasn't been reciprocated. Happens to us all, and you'll only cause embarrassment if you wade in IMO.

Stay out of it I think.

Difficult - it sounds like your female friend could get very hurt here and of course you don't want to stand by and watch that happen.

Could you urge the male friend to find a way of gently making it clear to female friend that he isn't interested in romantic relationship?

I would normally say stay out of it but if I was your friend I'd want the heads up!

To be fair to him every time she "jokes" about him asking her out he does say something about not wanting to spoil their friendship. So he's tried, but otoh if he agrees to go away for 4days, that's a bit of a mixed message.