Struggling with dd3, 3 months.

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Didn’t have a good night dd1 wet the bed she’s been drinking more water with her cough. After that about 1:30am I had to express for dd3 (we couldn’t get breastfeeding sorted due to tongue tie so now exclusively expressing). Then she was very wakeful from 2am.

I am shattered. I couldn’t stop her crying this morning when I put her down for her morning nap but nothing wrong except maybe sleepy… she’s not got a temp, is fed etc.

So went out for a walk and picked up chocolate, she slept in pram. Came back fed her, winded her and she was crying again.

I just feel exhausted and overwhelmed. My family don’t live nearby. DH is working. but DD1 and DD2 in school and preschool.

My work provide a portal to access emergency childcare so I used it to book dd3 into the baby room at a local nursery tomorrow. Waiting to hear back if they have the space and can take her.

I feel shit about it, but I just feel like a crap mum. The cleaner took her off me when she arrived and got her to stop crying and told me she looked tired.

I’m just fed up and feel upset. Think I’m in a better situation than most but wish I could pop to my mums and she’s 200 miles away. We’re going to see them in half term next week :(.

I didn't want to read and run... I found the first year of DC3's life really, really exhausting. He was an awful sleeper but it was more having to be always on with the older two when they weren't in nursery/playgroup. One thing I would do is take a short walk to get him to sleep in the pram then come home and leave him sleeping in the pram at the front door just to lie on the sofa for a few minutes! (You can see our front door from the sofa)

Also I hope DH sorted out the wet bed. My DH wasn't great at nights with either of the first two because I didn't really ask, but with our third I made it clear that he had to sort the other two at night time... in case that's a conversation you need to have.

Having three young kids is so tiring but honestly it has just got better and better. After DC3 was about 18 months I felt like I was getting my old energy levels back and now he's 4 I feel better rested than I have in years.

Oh crikey not sure I can last 4 years!
DH does night wakings with baby and 10-2am and whoever isn’t on baby duty sorts out anything with the other two. I express just before 10pm and just before 2am for her feeds then I swap with him at 2am. And I do 2-6am. So he’s doing a reasonable amount at night think I’m quite lucky compared to my friends.
She doesn’t take a dummy and my other two did and I can’t feed to sleep can I so it’s just a bit trickier. I want gong back to work until August but wondering if I should go back early now.