Fed up with exclusion

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Just feeling very down that my girls (autistic but in mainstream school) are consistently excluded from social activities after school and parties etc. They see other kids going to things and not being invited, for context I put effort in with other families in previous years, but have held back recently as one of my daughter's has had a harder time at school & it was very one sided.
Anyway, it seems to be getting me down more than them - but I just feel exclusion totally sucks!

Same happens with my ds, but they have to get used to it as it'll be a common theme throughout their lives. I'm autistic, but self exclude so don't find it that bad. It's harder if they want to be included but aren't. Try some new hobbies and they might be able to make some friends that way.

Thank you - I had a different experience growing up, so find it quite hard to see the blatant exclusion happening. Sometimes they notice, others now so much - you're right about trying to make other friends.

I've just found out that one boy out of my son's group isn't invited to a party next weekend. One boy!

He's autistic, and doesn't always play nicely, but I couldn't leave out one child.

Other kids are very harsh now, worse than they were when I was growing up. I think it's due to social media.