Is it normal to still see tantrums in a 4.5 year old?

[CarlaTheGnome]

I really hoped DS would have outgrown them by now but they still happen from time to time. Not every day or even every week, but when he does throw a strop over something I feel like such a parenting failure 😞 Like I should have taught him how to manage his frustrations better. No SEN. I guess I just need a sanity check from other parents...have I done a crap job or is this to be expected from a child this age?

Normal. My 7 year old still has tantrums (sorry you probably don’t want to hear that!)

They learn to control where they happen, and they get less frequent but it’s just a build up of emotions and they sometimes come out in a tantrum.

My DS is too young but I remember as a child myself still having tantrums at that age!

Sadly, I think they carry on til they are 18.

Mine just turned 4 and yes.

He built a camp in the morning, went to preschool and I had tidied. He was very very angry when he came home yesterday. Apparently I am a naughty mummy, screaming and shouting, then slumping down to cry. I offered we build a camp in his bed and he was fine.

My son finds it very hard to control his emotions inside the house. He wouldn't do anything like this anywhere else but that's because we're his safe space I suppose.

Absolutely. My 5&6 year old still have them. Not often but it does still Halle

Normal but they should be few and far between

I think it's normal. My 7 year sometimes still has a total emotional breakdown over things. There's a lot going on, hormones, emotional regulation, tiredness. They're trying to make sense of the world and all of the new experiences they have each day. To be honest I remember the overwhelming 'tantrum' feeling as a teenager too! Sometimes things just feel like a LOT and need to be processed. That can be difficult for children and young people.

Definitely not a failing of your parenting!

I've met adults that still tantrum! All you can do is stand firm and fair.

My 4.5yo DD still has them. It's less frequent now, but certainly more regular than I'd like it to be!

Totally usual, yes. My DD’s were particularly difficult at this age, they struggled greatly with the exhaustion from school.

One of my dts was a hard-core tantrumer.
They did calm down as he got older and then he was just a bit stroppy.
He is now very calm and reasonable at the ripe old age of 12.
His brother who didn't have many tantrums is the emotional pre teen.

Yes. Even teenagers and husbands have them 😂

Less than once a week!!! I’d say that means you have an extremely chilled boy. You’ve obviously taught him to manage his frustrations or he would be doing it much more often. When I’ve worked with that age group I’d be really worried if we went a whole day without a screaming match/strop/storm out… and that was just the staff and parents.

I have to admit I did pull a bit of a face when I saw the title of this thread...😬 Oh yes! My 8yr old still has tantrums of sorts. They just don't usually consist of throwing herself on the floor. Now she slams doors and stamps her feet whilst shouting accusations that I hate her etc etc