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To delete old friends from Facebook.

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sexualhealingisgoodforme · 02/02/2023 14:51

DH and I have two ( well ex friends ) now I suppose, a couple.

I've known the man, I'll call him Jake, for around 20 years, and his wife, " Jodie " around 15 years.

We used to do a lot together as couples, they had a baby who was always accommodated in our plans. They then had another baby 5 years later, the same again, always accommodated.

Fast forward 3 years, we had a child. I thought this could possibly bring us all closer. The complete opposite. Jake and Josie wasn't interested in doing anything with us anymore.

They made new friends with a couple they met on holiday and made very little effort to see us or speak to us. It was all very much adult time with this other couple, trips away, days out, I'd seen it all on Facebook.

There has now been complete silence between us for about 3 years now, I still have them both on Facebook and I'm wondering if to delete them
as I think the ship has sailed between us all or does that make me look petty?

Has anyone else been in this situation? How did it all pan out?

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Redglitter · 02/02/2023 14:53

Deleting people on fb really isn't a big issue. If you're no longer friends delete them. They probably won't even notice

vodkaredbullgirl · 02/02/2023 14:53

I have a clear out now and then on mine.

FavouriteSlippers · 02/02/2023 14:56

Do it. They won't even notice

RobertsRadio · 02/02/2023 14:57

Definitely delete them, their time has passed. They will probably be relieved.

Tangerinie · 02/02/2023 14:58

I'm not on FB anymore, but when I was I didn't keep friends on there if I hadn't seen or heard from them in a year or so. I just didn't see the point in them seeing my posts etc if I never spoke to them

Tangerinie · 02/02/2023 14:58

Sorry, so yes, delete and don't give it a second thought

MeMyCatsAndMyBooks · 02/02/2023 15:00

Yes delete.

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sexualhealingisgoodforme · 02/02/2023 15:02

I've wanted to do it for quite a while but I haven't had the courage I suppose.

Their behaviour really hurt me at first because we were actually quite close and have known each other a long time.

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LegoMinifigure · 02/02/2023 15:06

I have had friendships drift and end, including some where I've felt hard done by and resentful, and that unfriending click feels like quite a significant and sad moment! I suppose without FB and other social media platforms you perhaps don't experience that cliff edge in the same way.

If it were me, I would unfriend them. You're never quite sure how much of your posts or activity people see and I suppose you're seeing their posts too, which might be making you feel worse. You might feel better if you don't see their posts and you know they can't look at yours!

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sexualhealingisgoodforme · 02/02/2023 15:14

LegoMinifigure · 02/02/2023 15:06

I know it sounds pathetic but deleting them really does feel like the end, even though I've not heard from them in 3 years.

I had to unfollow them at some points because the stuff / photos they were putting on was really effecting my mental health.

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VenusClapTrap · 02/02/2023 15:15

Well it’s up to you, it’s your FB account. Delete them if it makes you feel better. Friendships do drift though, I don’t think they’ve done anything wrong exactly by doing things with other people. Resenting them for it sounds a bit high school. I have plenty of FB friends who I was close to once but are so no longer; I like seeing what they are up to. But you don’t, so go ahead and delete.

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