Wedding

[Bella7619]

Hello

We need some outside advice . As between us we just can't decide and going round in circles , so need some views please , outside opinions.....

Getting married next year we are late 40s.
I have tiny family but my partner has a very large one his mum is one of 10! So he has loads of aunties, cousins etc etc...not massively close literally only see them weddings etc etc .. I have my own three children plus my family is 27 including aunties and uncles and cousins ..my partner has about 60 family members ....

But we can't decide if to keep it intimate, our parents, my kids, sister's, brothers, nieces and nephews ( no grand parents anymore) so 35 max or just go large everyone 90 ish

Neither of us like to be center of attention, but we feel like we got to do this and that and getting confused .

We have few options but just can decide what to do!!

This is our options we got it to

1. Registry office local to us...4pm ceremony, then across the road literally to a toby calvary place for meal only , then home afterwards

1. Booking at a fine dining restaurant for ceremony at 4pm followed by sit down three course meal. Back ground music...all under same roof...then home afterwards.

1. Booking at a gold course place for ceremony at 4pm followed by reception drinks and canapes then dj and buffet for 35 guests max. Or invite everyone!! The 90!! Under one roof then home at midnight.

Do we get dj for 35 guests?? Or is that waste of money???? For option 3..

I think last option is most expensive ..

Arghh wedding planning is stressing us out..

Advice advice advice 😁

The fine dining restaurant with your nearest and dearest sounds nice

What do you want to do out of those options and what can you afford?
Do you want to have dinner and go home or would you like an evening 'do'.

This might be snobby but even if you go for a quiet meal after the ceremony I think you could go somewhere nicer than a Toby Carvery and it still be good value.

Even for a low key wedding I'd want something nicer than Toby Carvery (and that's from someone who loves a carvery!). I'd go to the registry office and then the nice restaurant with your nearest and dearest.

Option 2 - unless you want a big wedding, go for close people and good food.