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Too many messages.

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wagamamar · 30/01/2023 10:37

There's this guy who I know from about 20 years ago, he went out with my friend for a very short time and she dumped him.

He was nice bloke ( too nice for my friend ) and I always got on well with him, only ever as friends. Although if I'm honest I didn't see him that much or know him well at all ( he lived far away )

He added me on Facebook a few years ago and messaged me to see how I am and all that jazz. He has a partner and two kids, I'm married with children too. The messages got bit too much for me, they were constant but never inappropriate, always friendly, he's genuinely a nice bloke.

But I had to go off the radar and stopped messaging/ignored him as I really didn't have that much to say to him daily, all day long.

He messaged me out of the blue again a few months ago, I replied, same sort of chit chat, and now we've fallen into the same pattern again.

If I don't reply for a while and I've changed my profile picture, he'll like it then message me again, as if he's knows I'm online and available.

I feel a bit trapped in this again, any advice welcome, I'm not really sure what I'm asking to be honest and I don't want to hurt feelings.

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mothertrucking · 30/01/2023 10:41

I'd block him personally, he might be nice but he has a partner and kids. I'm sure if his wife came across the constant messaging she'd think something was going on.

ItsAnOrgasmNotAFabergeEgg · 30/01/2023 10:43

Don’t worry about his feelings, he’s not worried about yours or indeed his wife’s. Slow fade if you don’t want to be direct. Or just say “you again - don’t you have a job?!”

Workinghardeveryday · 30/01/2023 10:45

I had this about a year ago and just went off radar.

I felt guilty but it was too much, messaging me good morning sweetheart in the end so I just ignored sadly.

It is like a weight lifted

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DuplicateUserName · 30/01/2023 10:48

Just leave his messages hanging for a few days and when you eventually answer, keep them short and don't ask questions.

Just because you're online, doesn't mean you have to reply to anyone's message.

Iwantabloodypizza · 30/01/2023 11:02

Just block him. Life’s too short to be feeling stressed about this sort of thing.

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