Stealing from the shop age 16!

[Strugglingmumofteen]

So my 16 year old daughter stole a fair amount of stuff from a shop (hair clips etc)
Got caught.. doesn't act like she's particularly bothered.. more annoyed I won't just get over it...

I asked to go write an apology letter.. she dis. But I wasn't very remorseful.. took her phone for a week and grounded her.

What would other do in this situation?

N.b she has plenty of money to pay for thr things she has a job.. she's a very entitled person!

First of all, I would sit her down for a frank chat and ask her why.

Let her watch banged up abroad! You can't get a job if you are a criminal! A life of crime does not pay.

I'm not sure you can affect her attitude. I was caught shoplifting a few times, between about 11 and 17, my parents found out twice although I denied being actively involved the first of those times. Successfully, I think, but who knows parents thoughts and tactics for sure.

What stopped me, the last time (sort of) getting caught I was given an official warning, which is a level below a caution, for not telling on my friend I was with. I got away with denying stealing a book myself. I realised then, I was close to 18 when I felt I could reasonably expect the punishments to have more consequences. So I decided it was time to stop. Maybe that's the best you can hope for, explaining to her it's time move on for similar reasons

Or maybe there's another angle. I wouldn't advise the whole "it's wrong, bad etc" approach, if you can get a decent chat & some honesty from her about her reasons or motivation, maybe you might be able to suggest some other outlet or way to express it or address that feeling. I'm leaving that deliberately vague as I don't know you or your daughter to be anymore specific than that. It's more or less what I did, just without parental input

Would an 'actions now could have consequences for future employment' talk have any effect?