'Yeah I'll do it....' 4 months later I've done it myself! Anyone else?

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New dishwasher bought in September. Integrated so it needed the door reattaching and putting back in place and securing with screws into the cabinet. 30 minute job he says.

4 months later, sick of the damn thing wobbling over each time I open the door, sick of the plinth leaning up the wall for 4 months. So I got out the spirit level, roller thingies, string, drill, screwdriver (coz screws are never in the same place twice) and 2 hours, lots of swearing and 2 broken nails later, it's done.

Next stop the light fitting that's been waiting since September too... But first a cuppa

What's everyone else waiting for their dp/dh to get around to?

I was always the one that did the DIY / Decorating / fixing things anyway. No waiting for a man required. My mum was much the same. Men are no better at this stuff than women, no reason why we shouldn't just crack on and do it. That way the chap has more time for hoovering and washing and the like.

Next time he asks you to do something, just reply 'yeah, I'll do it'. And don't.

Unless he's actually amazing and this is just one small niggle. In which case ignore me!

It's not the 50's

I just crack on and do things myself that I can

DH just cracks on with the stuff he wants to fix or improve

We don't ask each other to do things like that we just do them

Well, you've proved to yourself that a penis is not a required tool for pretty much every job!

"It's on my to do list"

Could ram his to do list right up....

I can't get dh to access the list. He asked me what was on it - I wrote it out for him - like he can't see that the sofits have holes in and the felt has split on the porch roof and the gutters need emptying. He kept putting stuff down on top of it and I kept refinding it... Until I put it on an app for him (he's a geek). Which he's never logged into. So I'm still carrying the list and doing the jobs.

More pissed off now because Dd has been promising to clean my car for money. Just discovered (as dusk falls) that she started it but not finished it - and I'm driving a colleague tomorrow so I'm going outside to do it now that it's nearly dusk...

Oh I agree! But he said he'd do it as its a bit of a ballache of a job. In the meantime I've wallpapered and painted the dining room, we're fairly evenly balanced in domesticity!

About 8 months ago DP tried to climb over the bottom stair gate whilst carrying some boxes- he caught his foot on it and crashed to earth taking the stair gate with him and smashed a hole in the living room door. It looks like someone has kicked off and put their foot through it!
He was meant to buy a door and pay someone to fit it, I wasn't meant to have anything to do with it as I didn't break it. He finally got a door which was totally the wrong colour so in desperation I spent a day staining it so it would match the other doors better. It then retired to the spare room where it has languished ever since. When I've asked if he's ever going to arrange someone to come and fit it he's used getting other work done in the house as an excuse 'it will be too much going on at once ' and now isn't sure the door is the right colour
He doesn't even have to do anything other than arrange someone else to come out. He has almost zero DIY skills anyway so rarely gets tasked with doing anything. I feel your pain.

I totally ignore my husband saying "we need to do x or y". Because in the past, I've agreed, multiple times, and eventually I do it.

So I ignore it now, and just do the things I think need doing.