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I am becoming selfish with my time

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Scotblue · 29/01/2023 13:58

For years, I never used the sitting room properly. I never really relaxed in front of the TV.
I used Christmas time as a time to take time out and relax with some movies.
But outside of that, I never relaxed much at home. Life was always work Monday to Friday (usually) and then weekends was always spent catching up with chores or going out or quite often also more work.
In recent months I became very unhappy and also sometimes unwell. There was always somebody having a pull on my time - work, partner, family.

I really enjoyed Christmas time at home.
I had a week where I enjoyed sitting down in the sitting room and watching movies.
I never wanted that to end.
Since the new year, I fell into a position of being somewhat lazy at weekends.
I went into the sitting room one Saturday morning in the new year, and turned on the TV and I enjoyed it.
I watched bake off.
Followed by more programmes and movies.
Then I spent the Sunday doing the same.
Since then, aside from one weekend of work, I have been doing the same. I am lighting a fire and turning on the TV and relaxing in front of the TV and spending whole weekends watching movies and dipping in and out from the kitchen for food or tea and also to do some chores in between.
It was years since I watched Saturday TV.
I would say I would have been a child since I watched TV on a Saturday morning but I really liked it.

I'm becoming more selfish with my time and saying no more often and I am stopping the racing around 7 days a week. It really feels like some sort of h

OP posts:
Spaghetti201 · 29/01/2023 15:33

Good for you. Why not! Enjoy it. It’s your time to spend how you want. If you’ve enjoyed wasting time, then it’s not wasted time!

LadyLolaRuben · 29/01/2023 15:39

Sounds like you are taking time back for all the time you've spent on others over the years and not yourself. Sounds fine to me. Good on you. Dont feel guilty for it

Ladybug14 · 29/01/2023 15:40

Well done. And dont feel guilty. Enjoy these times Flowers

Bibbetybobbity · 29/01/2023 15:50

This sounds lovely- good for you! The weekends just merge into the week otherwise. Enjoy it…

MeMyCatsAndMyBooks · 29/01/2023 15:55

Good for you op. Self care is not selfish.

Simulacra · 29/01/2023 16:14

I do that Saturday/Sunday afternoons and have done for years.

I spend the morning ferrying DDs to various sports/clubs after spending all week working/studying, plus every other life thing (including medical apps for me and middle DD) as I’m a lone parent with a chronic illness.

Saturday we have a lazy lunch of a giant pile of toasties, dinner is takeout. Sunday is a slow cooker dinner day with leftovers for Monday.

After 2pm I am off the clock, until 6pm when it’s youngest DDs bath/bed time. I read, knit, watch TV - Hell I’ve even started playing eldest DDs PS4 with her Grin Those 8 hours + 1 hour in the evenings during the week from 9pm-10pm are very much what keep me sane.

The house is no longer show home tidy but I don’t have any fucks left to give.

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