Would you ever run out of things to talk about with dh?

[Orangeis]

We had a rare evening out together last night, and went for dinner. After a bit of chat about the dc, work, people we know, the food....we ran out of things to say.

There was no craic, but I'm after seeing his face every day, we talk about things as they come up. It made me feel sad, but looking around everyone else was in a group, maybe they'd have nothing to say if they were just in a couple.

Is this a sign of doom, or do you sometimes just have nothing to say? We're not great minds for philosophy or debating, just chat about life really, and it's been a bit samey lately, so there wasn't much to say.

Life can include the news stories about the world you live in though not just your small part of it. But if you only talk about things so close to home and nothing has happened then yes you will run out of things to say.

There is a card game would you rather? You can get pocket sized. It is random questions would you rather have a tail or wings? Etc perhaps take that with you next time a do a couple of cards if you run out of gossip. It's fun, random and sparks interesting chat about choices sometimes.

But in answer to your question no we don't run out of things to talk about.

Well we do at home but that's what phones are for! But if we went out nah we would gibber jabber.

Been together 20 years and we normally find things to chat about - nothing earth-shattering, things like what's in the news, books or films, reminiscences, things concerning our wider families, explaining factual things that one of us knows about and the other doesn't. It can be harder in the setting of an evening out, if you don't go out often, so your normal relaxed chat can dry up a bit.

We’ve been together over twenty years and I still look forward to having time alone to chat. Our youngest is about to leave home, we both work full time and DH plays a lot of sport so we’re not joined at the hip.

I remember early on in our marriage if we went out to a pub or for meal, I'd see couples just sat there watching everyone else but not talking to each other. Nowadays they are more likely to be scrolling on their phones, instead of engaging with each other.

I vowed that would never be us, and fortunately my DH can talk for England!!! When we are at home we discuss everything from holidays/family/ ongoing plans, the only thing I won't get into is the state of the world, I find it too depressing.

I’d say that’s fairly normal for us too. We talk a lot about day to day things and laugh at silly things, but DH is definitely not a talker. He’s my favourite person to spend time with but if I want a proper chat or talk about something deeper - politics etc I catch up with friends.

Sometimes we have nothing to talk about (or we don't feel like chatting). Personally I'm fine with that. It is a sign of a good relationship to be comfortable in each others silence.

Surely you just discuss whats been in the news recently? I thought thats what everyone did.

Nearly 35 years, haven’t yet.

No, but tbh we hardly ever go out for dinner just the two of us as we have no childcare and babysitters are ££££.

We sit together after kids are in bed and usually have loads to say, but that's because it's all crammed into a short space of time

Yes! Happened during covid when we were all at home so much - we went for a walk every day and quickly ran out of things to chat about (didn't want to discuss covid!). Ended up just having silly conversations like 'if you were a dog what sort of dog would you be?'

We've been together 22 years, and we love each other very much but sometimes just don't have a lot to talk about!

Never. We have known each other for over forty years.

Been together over 40 years a d both retired so in each others pockets all the time.
We don't chat all day, generally save it for over dinner or while out walking.
Plus DH can talk for hours on niche scientific subjects 😅

We have moments when we don’t want to chat e.g after long day of meetings. But it never last long more like an hour. Otherwise we don’t have enough time: domestic issues, DD’s problems, parents health, relatives’s news, politics, my news, his news, weather, future plans …
We are always falling asleep very late because of chatting.