Wish I had more family

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I have a boyfriend who is the father of my 1yo baby
I have my mum and dad who live close by, only 1 grandparent left who’s in a care home.
the only aunty and uncle I have were not in contact with
my brother and his fiancé live a 3 hour drive away. They do visit but not frequent of course

DH’s family aren’t really close too. Despite being together a few years and having a baby together I’ve never really felt part of the family? Not getting the vibe they dislike me but just don’t feel very part of it. They are all kind of distant but do love eachother of course.

m sometimes I see bigger families and I wish I had aunties and uncles and cousins ! I feel bad sometimes my DS doesn’t have any kids close to him I wish I could have a cousin for him (my brother and his fiancé don’t want kids anytime soon they said)

is it weird to want this? I just wish I had more family I don’t want DS growing up feeling lonely like I did

ill do everything to not make him feel like this I know an amount of people wouldn’t make that!

I don’t think it helps that I don’t have friends really

Well, as the saying goes, you can't choose your family, but you can choose your friends.

It seems like now is a good time to actively get out and about to meet lots of new people.
Find out what is going on for other parents with babies in your local area and join in.
Try your local library, your local Children's centre, your local Churches. If you have a Village Hall or community rooms near you - try there. Ask on your local Facebook group.
Do something for yourself on evening a week as well - leave your baby with his Dad and join something that you will enjoy - badminton, choir, bookclub, fundraising for local good cause, become a guide leader or a football coach - whatever it is that you are in to, but do something that expands your social circle.

I absolutely get this. You have more family than me! No kids or husband/boyfriend here. I have my mum and brother. My brother is only 5 miles away and works 2 minutes away but I rarely see him and we have an awkward relationship due to some issues in the past. My mum is 15 miles away and we ring and text all day every day. Its too much if I'm honest but she doesn't work or have friends so is lonely.
I don't have any friends at all. I have adhd which doesn't help. Other than my work colleagues, my mum is the only person I see/speak to regularly.

The only positive is Christmas is cheap!

You need Friends as Family. Gained by moving to another country when you need to rely on friends as no one in your shared immigrant community have family there...... maybe Singapore, Bangkok or Bermuda....

You've got more than I have ! Both my parents were only children and so I never had any extended family. Parents both deceased now, so all I have is my one sister who lives 600 miles away .

I did often wish I had some uncles and aunties when growing up - my mother was very difficult and Dad was no help. I thought that if she had a brother or sister, they might step in and tell her to behave more normally ! No luck unfortunately.

I made the best of it, and now have my DH, two adult kids and five grandchildren. DH has eight siblings so my kids have a lot of extended family, thank heavens.