Very urgent question re etiquette

[Thethingswedoforlove]

About to head into neighbours. We don’t drink. They have invited us in for wine/ champagne- oral invitations never with a chance to say ‘but we don’t drink’. So we accept filled glasses and just not make a fuss and don’t drink or do we ask for something non alcoholic? They won’t have much as they are moving out and have been back to clean and this is goodbye…..

Can you take a bottle of something non Alcoholic you like?

Tell them, or you'll look weird, but what are you taking with you? Give them a bottle of fizz or whatever and take something else a bit party like for yourselves.

"Lovely to see you, we don't actually drink, but we brought you this, and brought this for ourselves, cheers"

Yes that is a good idea “@Hollyhead thank you

Yes we have a bottle of fizz ready to take but will find something we like too. Great idea

don't accept the glasses, say immediately you get there that you dont drink alcohol. Yes if you can bring the alternative yourself then great idea. If not don't worry. The object of the exercise is to bid them good luck etc, you can do that while drinking water if that's all they have.

I’d take a bottle for them and a non alcoholic bottle for yourselves. Nice little ‘best of luck/goodbye and it’s ok that you’re drinking’ wine for them and bottle of non for you. That sets the ‘No issue with you drinking, but not for us’ tone. Hope you all have a lovely evening.

Thank you for the advice! Agree it’s not about what we are drinking

Don't waste their wine if you're not going to drink it. The suggestion to take them a bottle of wine would usually be sweet but since they're moving, they're possibly hoping to get rid of the dregs of the wine cupboard so it might not be the best time to take a gift. Maybe just take a card and something non-alcoholic to share?

Take something along that you like. They won’t bat an eyelid.

Definitely tell them, I made that mistake once and now get a bottle of champagne for Christmas every year off the lady 😂