Ds accused of touching a girls knee years ago

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My ds is yr 11. In Yr 7 he was moved to sit next to a girl in a certain class. My ds was shy and quiet and in yr 7 was more interested in Minecraft than anything else.

He has just got his first gf in the last few weeks. The girl sent him screen shots of what the other girl that he was sat next to for a limited saying he touched her knee. I know in the grand scheme of things this is quite small but its turning into teen drama and just to be clear he didn't touch her knee, he's mortified.

The girl who is saying this is a bit wayward and known for causing trouble. I'm worried it'll impact his gcse exams and if it escalates or the rumour changes he could get a name for himself or he could be effected emotionally.

Me and dh have decided to see what happens and hope it goes away but I'm wondering if I should speak to school. What would you do?

How do you know he didn't?

I wouldn't contact school. I'd make sure he knew that even though it was 4 years ago and he was much younger, if it did happen then he was in the wrong, then unless it escalates leave it.

I would absolutely contact the school. Accusations like this can really damage a teenage boy's reputation- I have a 13 yo boy and am dreading the years to come. One false accusation could affect him for the rest of his life!
Hope your DS is ok, whether this girl is making it up or maybe he accidentally brushed her knee when he was getting something out of his pocket/scratching his leg, it definitely shouldn't blow up into something it's not and I don't know why this girl is bringing it up years later!

Accusations like this can really damage a teenage boy's reputation

fir touching her knee when he was six or seven? I don’t think so.

Year 7 so aged 11 or 12 but I agree, I don’t think touching a knee is enough to damage a reputation

If this were my DS I would absolutely contact the school to make them aware of the situation.

I'd contact the school. They will address it and, importantly, shut down all conversations around it in class.

It happens fairly regularly (intense focus/speculation causing distress to students and affecting the learning environment) and we monitor conversation in class (same as we would when they start talking about Andrew Tate or their speculation on why X student is off for a protracted period for example). Also, pastoral and safeguarding staff can then check in with the girl in question and your son to establish a full picture and take necessary steps.

He was in yr 7, not aged 7

Speak to the school. They could eg do some lessons on the law around slander and how if you say something you can’t prove is true you can he sued etc. Or they may have a better idea

I have had to contact school recently about a rumour surrounding my daughter.
They have taken it very seriously and brought in the parents of the little shit spreading unfounded lies and gossip.
Absolutely contact the school OP.
Just because your son is a boy doesn't mean he is automatically guilty and should live with the gossip about him.