Demotivation

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I am completely demotivated at the moment.

I was ill over christmas and got out of all my good habits - cleaning schedule, meal planning, planning time with my family etc and I'm really struggling to get back into it.

I'm sitting in my pyjamas as DP has offered to take DS to his toddler dance class this morning and I feel so guilty.

What is the point in getting dressed? We're saving money and it's freezing and raining so we probably won't do a lot today. None of my clothes fit me anymore anyway because I've just been lounging around bingeing on chocolate.

Please be gentle, I'd love some constructive support.

I completely understand this. It really has to be small steps. This does eventually build habit.
So, you ask what is the point of getting up and dressed and this is the important bit, it is to give you a bit of purpose and will help you feel more positive.

Do you work? I only ask as I recently had 2 months off sick and felt demotivated. I made myself get up washed and dressed everyday. An idea for today can you choose a nice recipe to cook for you both. This does require effort which is initially hard but you can do this.
Celebrate the small things. Be kind to yourself.

Oh and I hear you with meal planning but it needs to be done. I hate it with a passion but again it does save time and money. Just some simple meals. Once you feel a bit better you can look at weight loss. The lighter evenings and better weather is coming.💐

Thanks so much @Battlecat98 that was a very thoughtful response.

I work full time and do the nursery drop offs and pick ups by foot as DP works very long hours. I also try my best to keep on top of the housework. Its this constant treadmill that is not unique to myself but when I get off it, it's hard to get back on.

In a rate surge if productivity yesterday I made a batch of homemade soup on my day off yesterday and some dough to make pizza tonight. Most of the time though I feel I'm just doing the bare minimum.

Hope you are feeling better and taking care of yourself x

Rare surge of*

Life with a toddler is exhausting without all the other crap life throws at you. Pick on thing eg meal planning and focus on that this week, as soon as you start back with routines things will start to eat easier.

Break what needs to be done down into smaller wins - it is much easier to find the energy to tackle smaller tasks and helps psychologically to tick off a job. An example from my life is a room needs a refresh. If I plan to do the whole room at once it won’t get done but if I just look at eg painting the windowsill as a job on its own I will be more likely to crack on and make progress. Or now I have a newborn really I can plan on making the house a show home and just not, or I can run the vacuum round the living room and straighten up the cushions.

It doesn’t need to be all or nothing, there’s still value in doing what you realistically can and you’ll feel better for it. It’s exhausting having a child so be kind to yourself, something has to give so accepting that is half the battle.