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Rota for household chores - does it work?

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Fizbosshoes · 27/01/2023 19:56

DH and I both work ft, we have teenage kids.
I do probably 90% of chores, admin, cleaning etc although DH cooks at least half the meals. Teens do certain things but not others grudgingly if asked. Everyone else seems to have mess-blindness.
After a particularly annoying day last week where I was hanging up a load of washing at 11.30pm and collected a wet towel, dirty socks, discarded crisp packet and plate, from the lounge I decided I'm not doing it anymore. Many many previous pleas, requests, moans, nags for everyone to pitch in, have ended with people agreeing to do more and 2 days later we're back to square one. So I suggested a rota. Everyone agreed. I showed them first and a few tweaks were made.

And....week 1 has been really good (for me!) It's so much nicer coming down in the morning to less mess or washing up etc and the teens aren't squabbling who empties the dishwasher or feeds the cats because they can see on the rota who's turn it is. I don't feel as resentful, like I'm the house skivvy.

Do others here have a rota? Does it work, or will the novelty wear off and it will slide back to me doing nearly everything? Is it too good to be true or can others reassure me it's the way forward?

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Fizbosshoes · 28/01/2023 14:47

Does anyone else have a rota? Does it work or am I being overly optimistic?

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Mammut · 28/01/2023 15:02

We don’t have a rota but yours sounds good. I get very resentful of doing all the shitty, boring and constant tasks. I started putting up list of things I’d done and that shames them a bit into action. I’d love a rota that worked but I don’t think my lot would comply.

Fizbosshoes · 28/01/2023 15:40

I used to write a chore list but kids would choose the things that took less than 5 min, DH would offer to go food shopping for half a day and the rest would be left to me, but then everyone would claim they helped!

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StrawberryMuffins · 29/01/2023 00:56

We've never really cracked a rota but maybe we just haven't hit on the right one yet. My teens do have jobs like emptying the DW but they don't help much with laundry or cleaning.

A shake up is a good thing, I hope yours sticks. If it slips maybe get their input on why, and get them to suggest how to fix it.

DarkNecessities · 29/01/2023 00:58

We used to have one and it worked!

Weenurse · 29/01/2023 01:22

we have one that has been modified over the years.
Changed each term depending on sporting commitments, and as time went on, Work rosters. It helped to point out that we all worked/ studied full time, we all contributed to the mess so we all needed to contribute to the clean up.
Been in place for 10 years now.
Initially when they slacked off, I would just point out who was rostered for what. Most chores were based around dinner time so everyone just got on and did.
DD1 has moved out but DD2 DH and I still stick to it.

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