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what inspired you to leave your job?

69 replies

itswednesdayy · 27/01/2023 17:45

I hate my job - everyday, I go in and can’t wait to leave, I know I’m worth better.

What was the final straw for you? What inspired you to keep applying for new jobs?

I’ve applied for a handful over the past 6 months (some are still in process as recruitment is slow paced) but can’t properly get in the zone and focus on securing a new job! Just feels like a faff.

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Tidsleytiddy · 27/01/2023 19:54

The place I resigned from pretended covid wasn’t happening. That, added to the general toxicity of the office where bullies were encouraged and only the most useless were praised was the final straw for me.

MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 27/01/2023 19:59

Toxic cliquey colleagues
Realising my manager's manager would (and did) throw me under the proverbial bus to save his reputation with senior management
Realising that my face didn't fit
Realising that I could trust my management about as far as I could throw them
Implemention of a new system that was totally unsuited to my role and the realisation that my job was regarded as unimportant
Looking at my finances and realisng I didn't need to tolerate this shit one minute longer.

There was a lot of other stuff, esp over lockdown, but the above was enough. I declined the exit interview, filled in the survey they sent me ('would you work for this company again?' - yes. 'Would you work for this manager/director again?' - no) and pissed off once my notice was up. Didn't tell them the person they'd recruited to replace me was a disaster waiting to happen because they didn't ask me what I thought. Let 'em find out the hard way.

Riverlee · 27/01/2023 20:00

A few reasons. One was a very un-Mumsnetty reason - changed jobs and reduced my hours to support dh in his new job. He’ll be wfh less so need to be around more for the puppy. Also because a friend said that if you plan to change jobs, why wait. The final straw though was because discovered new people were on practically on the same pay as I was (been at company for several years) applied for pay increase and didn’t get it. Lost respect instantly for the company I worked for and lost my drive for the work.

MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 27/01/2023 20:02

And the final straw? getting a rollocking for something someone else was meant to do and hadn't while doing my job (or not doing it) when I was furloughed. Took me nine months to get my ducks in a row but get my ducks in a row I did.

whataboutsecondbreakfast · 27/01/2023 20:03

Having a breakdown that lead to two months off work.

Then when I eventually went back, bullying.

LadyKenya · 27/01/2023 20:03

I got sick, and tired of my brown nosing, lazy colleague getting away with doing the bare minimum. The job was starting to cause me stress as well, which I felt was not worth the hassle. I left, and I am still not regretting doing so.

MontanaSapphire · 27/01/2023 20:04

Something happened that made me realise the values of the organisation I had worked in for 10 years no longer matched my own values.

I handed my notice in without a job to go to. I'd been meaning to do some job hunting ever since I had a breakdown due to stress 4 years before, but I was always too busy to actually give it any energy. Once the lightbulb moment happened I just felt I had no other option. I planned to do some locum work for a bit while I re-evaluated things, but in the end the weight off my shoulders of handing in my notice meant by the time I actually left I had another job lined up, which I absolutely love.

Cornelious2011 · 27/01/2023 20:04

Backward view and bureaucracy. Nice people though but the systems from above were awful.

lissie123 · 27/01/2023 20:05

My boss. I was told recently you don’t leave your company just your boss.

Rachaelrachael · 27/01/2023 20:08

I got a shitty email from a director blaming me for something that was nothing to do with me. I stepped outside, called my husband for his blessing, then replied to her email giving my notice 😂(there was obviously a build up to this moment). Best thing I ever did!
I'd been going through a failed IVF cycle at this time. As soon as I left I got pregnant and my life was infinitely better! I only regret not doing it sooner.

xPissflapsx · 27/01/2023 20:08

I rang my ex boss to tell her that I needed x day off for my grandma's funeral. she was more bothered about me not being able to work than how I was. So i walked.
My granny made me realize life was too short

Bagsundermyeyestoday · 27/01/2023 20:09

Asshole boss ... every time

thenewaveragebear1983 · 27/01/2023 20:12

I cried every single day from September 6th to October 21st
i got offered the exact same job at a different school for 14 njc scp higher (scp 6 to scp 20)
I asked my school to match it or at least consider it
they said they would match it so I turned the others down.
they refused to match it
they said in a staff meeting how glad they were that I was staying so I handed in my notice that day

my job was horrendous, I was doing 2 full time jobs for 7 months. I should never have gone back in September but they promised me an assistant who we interviewed together, but they didn’t tell me she wasn’t coming in September as she got a better offer. It was destroying my mental and physical health.

I have been unemployed and then temping, it’s taken me three months to get a new job offer but I now have it lined up for 6th March and i cannot wait.

life is too short to feel the way I was feeling. Good luck in your venture!

AbsolutelyFuckingSick · 27/01/2023 20:13

Call centre work for a well know broadband company..... think purple. Getting told I was letting the team down as "that customer was old, she would have taken a mobile with us, why didn't you push her" the customer was elderly and previous call notes stated she had Alzheimer's and called many companies she was with for chats. Followed by "you could have sold xyz to this customer, she clearly needed it" she didn't, the whole call was her sobbing and stressing about bills.
I thought I'd give it one more day, can't get any worse. It did. I left my lanyard on my managers desk with a note to read my email, in which I had cc'd the MD explaining the disgraceful sales tactics.
If anyone is with the purple company..... Friday is the end of their bonus week, keep calling from 4 onwards, you'll get through to someone who's had a shite week, won't make a penny and get the best discount.

EngTech · 27/01/2023 20:14

Toxic boss and the final straw was putting in an expense claim for lunch

Less than £5, turned down as it did not satisfy corporate guidelines, it did

Started applying for an internal transfer, got offered a new job and was allowed to move the following week as I was not a team player

They took 4 months to back fill my job

thenewaveragebear1983 · 27/01/2023 20:17

Oh and I will also add: I absolutely couldn’t focus on job hunting while I was still working. Each application took hours, literally 3-4 hours each. I did one every single day and I got only one interview, a few 2nd stages… I have a first class degree, years of experience , teaching qual, retail experience, customer service modern apprenticeship…. Jobs market is tough and in the end I squirrelled some money away so I could leave without an onward role.

sodonewithit2 · 27/01/2023 20:18

Name changed just in case.

Currently on Mat leave but hoping to leave the NHS. So tired of being overworked, underpaid and stressed with no recognition.

Asked for additional hours after Mat leave (a month left). Got told not possible then they gave a full time clinical contract to an inexperienced (clinically) receptionist instead.

'Manager' is also non clinical and very non family friendly imo!

New job I'm hoping for is £4 an hour more and much more flexible.

Main reason is putting my family first!

Good luck and I would say go for it!

mewkins · 27/01/2023 20:25

Nightmare head of department who was useless, a micromanager and systematically destroying the department. A number of other teams started grievance procedures and there was just an air of dissatisfaction around the place.

mrsharrisgoestoparis · 27/01/2023 20:27

AbsolutelyFuckingSick · 27/01/2023 20:13

Call centre work for a well know broadband company..... think purple. Getting told I was letting the team down as "that customer was old, she would have taken a mobile with us, why didn't you push her" the customer was elderly and previous call notes stated she had Alzheimer's and called many companies she was with for chats. Followed by "you could have sold xyz to this customer, she clearly needed it" she didn't, the whole call was her sobbing and stressing about bills.
I thought I'd give it one more day, can't get any worse. It did. I left my lanyard on my managers desk with a note to read my email, in which I had cc'd the MD explaining the disgraceful sales tactics.
If anyone is with the purple company..... Friday is the end of their bonus week, keep calling from 4 onwards, you'll get through to someone who's had a shite week, won't make a penny and get the best discount.

I have worked for the green competition and it is a soul destroying job. You are just a robot on minimum wage.

AbsolutelyFuckingSick · 27/01/2023 20:31

@mrsharrisgoestoparis I hear you. It's disgraceful what they do to customers. The day I knew I was at the end of tether I took a few calls.... "oh your contract has ended and you were paying £70 per month, let me sort that out, how does £25 sound?" Grin

lostinthejungle22 · 27/01/2023 20:32

Burnout. Had no job to go to but I knew I had to leave so saved as much as I could for about 6 months, so I could take a break. Don’t leave without some kind of plan in place.

WhatsTheEffingPoint · 27/01/2023 20:34

Bosses were a husband and wife combo.
She swaned in did very little, spent £600 on a lamp that was for office lighting but was in their home.
He went on business trips to London but was on the golf course or drinking with mates and cancelling meetings.
They then made two other members of redundant (stop buying £600 lamps out of office funds then!)
But the cherry on top was her trying to score drugs from her brother for him whilst we were out for our Christmas meal.

Resignation was handed in first day bac after the Christmas break!

SpaceCandyCoconut · 27/01/2023 20:35

Hoping to leave mine imminently (got an interview for something else next week). Unpleasant new line manager who does not trust me to do a job I've done well and largely without supervision for several years - they want to check every piece of work I do. It's really undermining my confidence.

ThenILeft · 27/01/2023 20:43

Lost my dad and two others close to us in the space of a few months. Friends the same age (much too young) losing their partners. Life is too short to be miserable

Psiren · 27/01/2023 20:54

The final straw for me after 9yrs with the company was the day my manager returned my contribution for a collection. She put the money on my desk with a post it note saying she'd already paid so no need. She asked for contributions at 11am and I transferred the cash at 2pm, to be returned the follow morning. This was the latest in a long line of petty low level bullying, she didn't talk to me ever only sent emails, she didn't even say morning or bye to me and we sat 3 desks apart! I realised then it wasn't going to ever get any better there, my job was unpaid and I was responsible for some things several pay grades above mine, also some incredibly lazy colleagues (managers friends) all added together for the perfect storm. I wrote my resignation letter and went straight to HR. I had no job to go to and hadn't updated my CV in years. I took 2 days and the weekend to come to terms with it all then updated my CV on the Monday. I was contacted later in the day for an interview and 12 days after walking out I accepted a new job with a tidy 35% increase in pay and I haven't regretted a thing! It has made me realise how undervalued and unpaid I was and will never allow that to happen to me again.