If you made a list of things to do that would make you feel good/ help your self esteem what would be on that list ?

[Pringlepopping]

Mine is make sure I read with my 9 year old everyday

make sure I play with him every day even if only for 20/30 mins

check in with a friend that’s struggling

They seem like lovely things to do but they're all about helping other people. Is there anything you do just for you?
Mine is exercise.

Yeah I noticed that too
it’s always about me doing things for others
you are right I need to add some things for myself too

Lose 3 stone
Go to bed earlier
Declutter my spare room.

Floss
Yoga
Get everything ready for the next day the night before
Clean sheets
Watch something for me like 'call the midwife'
Don't not do something because you can't be bothered or are scared (e.g swimming in the sea!)

Make themed playlists on Alexa.

Time for myself. This month is yoga month. Next month is running.
Learning something (eg Duo lingo, podcast on something educational, currently how to build new habits, previously I binged on Feng shui).
Try to implement a good skin care regimen every day

Have a decent haircut, with a colour to cover my greys.
book a facial
book ashoulder and back massage

Facial and massage sounds good

Read a book is a reliable one for me

Meet a friend

Giving blood. When I walk out afterwards it’s like someone’s given me free drugs. And then you get a second hit a couple of weeks later when you get a text or email that says “thank you for donating. The blood you donated was used at Newcastle General Hospital” or something like that. It always lifts my day.

Good haircut and colour
Sticking to a skincare routine
Eating and drinking well
Trip to a brow bar
Visiting a good gym
Weekend newspapers, Duolingo, poetry, University Challenge and crosswords!

-Make a list
-Declutter a space
-Send an email, voice note, WhatsApp, or postcard to a friend I’ve been thinking about but failed to reach out to recently
-Turn up to the yoga mat, even if it’s just to sit and breathe (spoiler alert: it never is just this by the time I’m on the mat)
-File and buff my nails
-Set a timer and have a cheeky afternoon Power Nap
-Check my savings/investment and notice how well I’m doing (relatively!) now I’m no longer in an abusive marriage

Stay off social media (fb, instagram).

I feel so much better being off them. Nothing to compare to!

This might sound a bit odd, but to increase my self esteem I've recently make a conscious effort not to say "sorry" unnecessarily. For example:

Someone gave some of their time to help me with a problem. Instead of saying "sorry that I took up so much of your time ", I said "thank you very much for helping me with this, i appreciate it "

Instead of saying "I'm so sorry to disturb you...", I might say "I need to discuss something with you, is this a good time...?"

This might not really be relevant to a lot of people. But as someone with chronically low self esteem, going through therapy, I have found that making a conscious effort to not apologise for my existence or needs is really helping my self esteem!

I've become aware that I over apologise. I really must stop.