"Your mum" or use her name

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When talking to an adult daughter about her mother, someone you know well would you call her "your mum" or use her name.

I appreciate it's not the biggest issue in the world but neither seems right.

The elderly mother, who I've known forever is in hospital. Do you say "best wishes to your mum" or "best wishes to Violet"?

I would say 'your mum'. I was speaking for the first time to the son of my elderly mums friend and I used 'your mum'.

I’d say ‘your mum’ for sure.

I also say ‘my mum’ rather than ‘mum’, as I don’t call my mum ‘mum’. It’s a bit awkward. I called her mummy until I was a teenager and now just don’t call her anything really. So when talking to other people about her, I say ‘my mum’.

If I wanted to call her over or something I either wouldn’t and would go up to her, or would say something OTT like ‘mother!’ Or ‘mamaaa’ or just say ‘hellooo!’ Or ‘look!’ Or whatever was appropriate. I realise it’s weird!

I think either is fine, I have used both interchangeably in that situation and would not find it weird for people to do that for me. My stepmother (who married my dad after I had left home) refers to him as both ‘your dad’ and his name when talking to me.

😂 😂

I was the daughter of aging, then dying parents. When people asked after them using "your mum" or "your dad", it felt like I was being included in the concern and that was a good feeling. In my experience, it was family and friends who were contemplates of my parents or knew them rather than me that referred to them by name. It wasn't that they weren't interested I how I was because they'd often ask about me as well. But it seemed to indicate their primary relationship.
In day to day conversations I use both terms but probably follow that pattern

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No, your mum.