Is this an acceptable gift?

[DinDjarin]

For a close family member. DD (10) has learnt a piece of new piece of music and made a mash-up of it with happy birthday. She's planning to play it when I bring the cake out. She's worried that she doesn't have something to wrap-up and hand over. I think its enough. What do you reckon?

Does she play well? Or does it sound like you are swinging a cat around by the tail and a one man band all at the same time? If the former its lovely, if the latter get a wrapped up present instead.

I think it depends who it’s for , a granny / grandad who like hearing her play - fine , a sibling who doesn’t care that she plays - not so much .

It depends - for Dad that's fine if he thinks it's fine, but my brother gave everyone in the family his art and musical renditions when he was younger and now everyone rips the piss by doing the same back, including an absolutely hilarious poem about being a miser that his eldest bro gave him for his 30th 😂

I think it's a good idea only with a small gift as well.

Does she normally give gifts? My dc didn't give presents of their own until the had jobs of their own.

She usually gives something she's made either at home or at school: a Christmas tree decoration or something. She's been getting pocket money for almost a year now, with the idea they would buy gifts for the family from that if they want. Totally recognisable tune, not cat-like.

I think from a 10 year old its a really thoughtful gift and perfectly acceptable. We waste far to much money on token materialist items due to social pressures, when actually its usually not wanted and not environmentally friendly.

I would add something small

I'm not sure why a 10yo would be expected to buy a family member a gift out of her pocket money? The adults buy the gifts in my family/social circle.

I would be thrilled to bits to receive the gift of a musical mash-up! My favourite gift at Christmas was a card my dd had made that had a lovely message inside - il cherish that forever as I'm sure the memory of your dd playing her song will be remembered forever.

If she normally give's something she's made like a Christmas decoration then I don't see how this is any different from that. It seems like a perfectly ordinary thing for a child to do to me.

I mean it’s not a gift, but I don’t understand why a 10yr old would be responsible for organising her own gifts in the first place.

Yeah would make sense for you to get her a traditional gift and then she can present her ‘gift’.

My mum always bought a gift from me to the grandparents and then I’d make a card or picture, fairy cakes etc to go with it.

@Prinnny mainly because DD was so ungrateful and horrible to DS about the gift he gave her last year. We decided it was time to let her take some responsibility for budgeting and thinking about what she would give people. The idea being that either she spends some time making something to give or she spends some of her pocket money to buy something.
Personally, I think, as it's DH, it's enough that she spent time learning a piece of music that he likes. She's not so sure as she's seen that DS has bought a box of chocolates for him.

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I think it sounds lovely however I wouldn't have her playing when the cake comes out, I'd do it when she can make sure she has his full attention

It's for her father? Sounds fine to me.

I would definitely get a small gift also especially if your DD is already feeling self conscious about it.