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Bad habits and long term recovery from burn out

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Hui8fghi7t · 23/01/2023 08:59

About 10 years ago, I had a very stressful period at work and burnt out. I recovered within a couple of years but adopted some bad habits which are hard to change. I wondered whether others are the same and how you managed to get entirely back to normal.

As context, my stressful period was writing a PhD thesis. During which time, I became severely deficient with vitamin d and iron deficiency. I had bad brain fog and focus issues but needed to deliver the hardest thing I had experienced. I didn't take any weekends or evenings off. I spent 12+ hours a day in my PhD lab with no natural light. As there was a deadline which I overran by 6 months, I kept pushing myself to work but ground to a halt. I felt like a failure and that I needed to just keep working to fix it. I spent a lot of time not really able to function. Some days I made tiny amounts of progress on the big task.

I feel like I recovered from this year's ago but I have a lasting bad habit that I didn't have before. My bad habit is avoidance and procrastinating. I used to be find focus easy. Having pushed myself so hard for a year, my brain learnt it didn't really have to do things. I got in the habit of vegging out rather than healthier forms of relaxing. It means if I feel overloaded, I can do nothing for periods of time and it feels like a waste. I know the best thing to do is to have a break or do something useful. But this feels like a hang up. I'd like to get to where I was pre-stressful phase. I don't do it all the time but it happened yesterday afternoon and I 'lost' 7 hours that could have been fun, relaxing or useful.

I wondered whether others have felt like this and how they manage a decade after a burn out. Do you still have bad habits from that time in your life?

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WallaceandGrommit · 23/01/2023 09:10

No advice I’m afraid, just solidarity. I could have written your post. Hopefully someone will come along with some helpful advice.

Hui8fghi7t · 23/01/2023 09:13

WallaceandGrommit · 23/01/2023 09:10

No advice I’m afraid, just solidarity. I could have written your post. Hopefully someone will come along with some helpful advice.

Thank you. I had a feeling others might experience this too. Only my partner who I live with knows I'm like this, so I mask it well.

I just know if I can crack this, I'd be happier and regain hours of my life. So it's worth trying.

I hope you recover well too!

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Christmascracker0 · 23/01/2023 09:19

I am exactly the same OP. I had some work to do over the weekend (it’s a busy time for us) and both Saturday and Sunday I procrastinated all day and ended up working 4-9pm yesterday. I feel like I have wasted the whole weekend because I was just sitting around all day for both days! I find it really hard to just ‘get up and go’.

So sorry, no advice but you’re not alone!

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