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Staff 'grassing up' colleague's to management.

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MsMiaWallace · 21/01/2023 08:33

I manage a team of 9. I have some fabulous staff who are proactive & work hard but I am fed up of 1 or 2 gossiping about their colleagues to me & other members of the team.
Telling me snippets of what they didn't do or something they've done wrong.
Grassing them up over petty things. It can cause real animosity amongst colleagues.
The staff doing it are far from perfect themselves.
Obviously if there was a genuine issue I manage this.

How do you manage this? I have told particular staff if they have an issue put it down in writing & I will address concerns.
It's like a playground sometimes!

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unlimiteddilutingjuice · 21/01/2023 08:35

"OK, thank you for making me aware"
Then do nothing.

LlynTegid · 21/01/2023 09:35

You manage a team where there are one or two people who are unreasonable. You need to meet with each of them away from others and make it known to them how they should raise concerns. No general comments in a team meeting, no general emails, say nothing at all to the other seven.

Not nice or easy, but it is a part of managing a team.

MsMiaWallace · 21/01/2023 10:14

LlynTegid · 21/01/2023 09:35

You manage a team where there are one or two people who are unreasonable. You need to meet with each of them away from others and make it known to them how they should raise concerns. No general comments in a team meeting, no general emails, say nothing at all to the other seven.

Not nice or easy, but it is a part of managing a team.

I have already done this.
The unreasonable members of the team are the least confident in their work. I believe they feel threatened by more competent members of the team so it's perhaps deflection?
I transitioned from officer to manager so I know the members of the team inside & out.

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StephanieSuperpowers · 21/01/2023 10:20

Just say, "I'm not interested in idle gossip and I won't act on it" until it stops, I suppose.

WakyWally · 14/01/2024 19:27

This is precisely what has culminated in me walking out of my job. Im heartbroken that i allowed myself to do so. A disgraceful colleage showed me up and demeaned me and then went grassing. Some people do not care a fig of their actions.

WakyWally · 21/01/2024 17:16

Im expected now, to just walk back and carry on as normal.

declutteringmymind · 21/01/2024 17:24

You could say 'I'm aware of this. I'm also aware that you need to improve in xxxx. How's that going?'

Or 'have you spoken to xxx about this, I would expect you to be able to iron these kinds of things between you. Are you having trouble?' The more oxygen you give pretty issues, the worse it will get. There's a section of our workplace that is really petty. I call it out every time. 'Does it really matter?' is often muttered.

Fairyliz · 21/01/2024 17:55

Are you sure you actually manage genuine problems?
I’ve worked in offices for over 40 years and there are lots of managers who brush problems under the carpet because they can’t be bothered/don’t know what to do.
How about sitting down with these people and actually listening to them rather than assuming you know everything that is going on.
You might find that yes they are idle gossips or they might have a genuine problem.

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