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Is there a stigma about making friends online?

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MarmaladeCrumpets · 19/01/2023 20:59

I know that attitudes have changed about online dating but what about making friends through apps like peanut?

If you use a friend shop app are open with people about it or are you a bit embarrassed?

Would you judge someone for making friends online?

Just curious and trying to work out if my own hangups are irrational or not.

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UsingChangeofName · 19/01/2023 23:29

I didn't know such apps existed, so this is theoretical.

I wouldn't 'judge' anyone, if they told me, but in life generally, I don't tend to go about asking people where they met.

The thing that would worry me about trying to make friends on-line is how you would know the people were actually who they said they were ?

XenoBitch · 19/01/2023 23:38

I also didn't know there were apps for friendships. I figured it was all dating/shags.

Asthmatron3000 · 19/01/2023 23:52

I have quite a few online friends. Most of them from when I was very young but some from online dating or other social media more recently.

OfcourseSpringRoll · 20/01/2023 00:01

I have gaming friends and have known some for close to a decade. Have met up with a few.

Celia24 · 20/01/2023 00:21

Nah don't think so.

I met one of my best friends on MSN 20 years ago. Never had a weird comment about it!

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MarmaladeCrumpets · 20/01/2023 16:22

The thing that would worry me about trying to make friends on-line is how you would know the people were actually who they said they were ?

Well they have a profile with their pic and blurb about them and after a few chats you meet up in person.

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Cheesetoastiesz · 20/01/2023 16:32

many on MN are very dated in their views and outlook so there is stigma on here (usually born from ignorance, just look at these comments so far, people who have no idea friendship apps exist, baffling)

But in reality it’s very normal, most women I’ve met who have had kids in the past 2 years have all used peanut to make friends.

SpinningFloppa · 20/01/2023 16:33

I find the idea of making friends online odd so wouldn’t do it myself but wouldn’t judge others

janeeyreair · 20/01/2023 16:34

No not at all, it used to be meeting friends at evening classes, hobby groups etc , but now its online same as everything else is.

Colderthanever · 20/01/2023 16:35

Not if you meet them. The thing I see where it is a worry is people who never meet but just on line and virtually. It’s like a make believe relationship.

quietnightmare · 20/01/2023 16:37

Judge people ... no
Worried they may be a serial killer and murder me... yes

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MarmaladeCrumpets · 20/01/2023 22:14

@quietnightmare 😂😂

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UsingChangeofName · 20/01/2023 23:20

Cheesetoastiesz · 20/01/2023 16:32

many on MN are very dated in their views and outlook so there is stigma on here (usually born from ignorance, just look at these comments so far, people who have no idea friendship apps exist, baffling)

But in reality it’s very normal, most women I’ve met who have had kids in the past 2 years have all used peanut to make friends.

How is it "baffling" ?

If it isn't something you have ever needed, or wondered if it were 'a thing' then why would you know about all sorts of stuff that has no reason to come on to your radar ?

Or are you one of the posters who can't grasp the concept that there are hundreds of thousands of individuals on here, and of course millions of individuals in real life, all of whom have different experiences.

most women I’ve met who have had kids in the past 2 years have all used peanut to make friends.

If most of the people have, then I presume you must be mingling with people you have met on the app. Which is great - it shows it must work. However, this clearly isn't a reflection of the population as a whole.

What I find "baffling" is that there are people who can't understand that other people might be different from themselves.

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