It would be nice to sleep

[Whazzzat]

I have 2 DC under 4. They're actually both good sleepers but I somehow seem to be up all the time. Tonight DD has a cold and keeps crying every 30 mins or so. Most of it is in her sleep so I don't need to get up but I still get woken up every time. DH? Doesn't hear a thing. After going back to sleep countless times already I now seem to be wide awake, brilliant.

The worst nights always seem to happen just before my day in the office - extra long commute, important meetings with important people and I'm a zombie that's barely had 3 hours of broken sleep.

Last week it was because DS had inexplicably been awake for 3 hours in the middle of the night. WTF.

When they both sleep through for 12 hours I'm sure to get woken by DH's snoring.

Am I the problem? Everyone in my household seems to enjoy lovely sleep most of the time apart from me.

Pity party over. Thanks for reading!

I can’t even blame my children- fast asleep all night, as usual, and yet here I am… wide awake

Sorry you're struggling too! The time it takes me to get back to sleep is definitely half the issue. DS usually goes back to sleep instantly with a cuddle, but I'm then awake for at least an hour.

Having children messes with your sleep so much :(

And now I'm hungry.

Try taking some magnesium before bed. I find it really helps with the getting back to sleep part of it all

I'm with you @Whazzzat, my baby has been sleeping amazing through the night since 11 weeks, sleeping 12 hours a night but the 4 month sleep regression has hit and she is wide awake ! And like you, if I'm not up because my babies awake, I'm up because my boyfriends horrendous snoring x

I’ve been sleeping better recently but I struggled to get off tonight and now I’m wide awake after a lovely hour’s nap.
My adult DS has started a campaign for us to get a dog. He lives with us and is recovering from some MH difficulties. Unlikely to be working FT for a while. It would do him a lot of good, but I’m weighing up all the longer term implications and what breed (if any) may be suitable.
So I’m wide awake, because of a non-existent dog!

@Findyourneutralspace Have you/woukd you consider fostering. You can always adopt it if it works out well.

@Whazzzat

...see my user name.

my sleep is always pretty crap, but it's UBER crap at the moment! I'm thinking about a second job for nocturnals

not much help but solidarity!! I'm

I am joining the pity party. DS 2.3 has never really been that great a sleeper, and now that he has been potty trained for about 3 months during the day, he started to wake in the night asking for a wee 🥴 I am 12 weeks pregnant with #2, and still have residuals of first trimester joys in form of nausea and exhaustion, plus I work full time with over night on calls. DS is also a boobie monster and is not night weaned yet (I have major mum guilt about putting him in nursery all day and in my head that somehow compensates for my absence during the day...). Nowadays it takes me ages to get back to sleep after being woken up either by toddler or by work.

I need to be up in 2 hours, ready for a long commute to a different city, but hey, I am wide awake. I am not impressed with this insomnia gig, 0 stars, do not recommend.

@DadANDPK part of the conundrum is my lovely cat, who is helpfully joining the wide awake club and zooming round my bedroom. He’s such a good sleeper - as long as I’m asleep!

A lot of foster dogs (and rescues) aren’t suitable to live with cats, sadly.

Sleep, what is that, lol

I came up at 10pm, which is early for me. I was feeling tired and thought I'd fall asleep

How wrong was I !!!!

When it is time to get up that is when my mind/body will decide it is time to sleep. And so the battle to drag myself out of bed will begin.
Though once I'm up, I'm ok, not tired.

I used to think there is something wrong with me for not getting a full night's sleep.
I've now accepted that sleep time needed vary and not everyone needs 7 hours every night.

But it is rather lonely when everyone else is fast asleep.

Thank you for the solidarity but so sorry everyone's sleep is so crap too.

Definitely relate, especially to my body being wide awake after an hour's 'nap' at the beginning of the night. This is happening increasingly frequently.

I did get a block of 4 hours after I posted though so hey, it could be worse!

@UsernameNotPresent special sympathies, I remember being awake with a potty training toddler while pregnant and it feels so disheartening. That was without work overnights. You're doing amazing!

@WouldBeNiceToSleep great name!

@Findyourneutralspace I hope your DS is doing OK and you find a lovely dog for you all.

Also agree that it feels so lonely! In the morning the DCs are full of life and joy as soon as they open their eyes, and DH gets up and makes elaborate breakfasts. I just want everyone to be quiet so I can desperately get an extra 20 minutes sleep. I feel like such a killjoy.

Hi everyone! I hope you're all asleep unlike me! I've just been up with DS for an hour and as I'd had an hour 'nap' before he woke me up I'm struggling to get back to sleep.

DH also has a cold so is snoring even more than usual, mixed in with some sniffling, blowing his nose and coughing.

Oh the joy. I'm actually struggling not to catastrophise the lack of sleep in my head today which isn't helping....

I have the same issue, I just wish I could get some sleep at some point!

My toddler had her taster session at nursery a few days ago - and caught an awful cold. Now the baby has it and as he's still in our room, all I can hear is him sniffling and snorting.
My DP is at work but if he was here I'm sure he'd sleep through the noise. At least I get a break from listening to him snore though!

Go and stay with your parents, or a friend, overnight. Either your DH will wake up to tend to the children or they will give up and go back to sleep. If the former, you can safely tell the children to wake Daddy up if they need anything in the night. If the latter, you will know that you can ignore them if they shout for you in the night and the world won't end. If you work too, then like fuck can DH just opt out of the night shifts.

Awake too!
And have to be up in 3 hours to de-ice the car then teach all day and have lawyer meeting re my divorce after work...

I’m awake!! MIL is watching DS age 3 tomorrow as we’re away for 1 night together. Been booked for ages and really looking forward to it.

I’ve been wide awake since 1am! I’ve washed and hung my jacket up to dry for going away tomorrow and I’ve put my bra in the washing because I forgot to last night. DS also woke as he had a horrible cold.

Im up at 6am! Hope we all get to bed soon. X

Also awake!
DS wok up and told me he wanted to get up (he's 2.5) and I'm like nope back to bed it's 3am!

But now I'm awake, stuffy nosed and 36 weeks pregnant. Can't even tell you how many times I've woken to pee tonight

Boyfriend though?? Soundo 😴

Urgh so frustrating for you all! DS just woke up and called again, DH has gone to him but I'm awake too.
I honestly don't know what to do, he has been like this all week. He is 5. He should be able to sleep without calling us all the time, he used to! I feel like I am slowly losing my patience with it and feel guilty but we can't carry on like this. How do I get him to understand we can't be up all night?